I'm at a complete loss about what to do!

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So, my fiancé and I very recently split up. I realised that I had fallen out of love with him and I didn't want to marry him. It's been a difficult break up, but we were working through it. However, I just found out that I'm pregnant, I've tried to talk to him about it, but his two options he gave me were 1) have an abortion or 2) be a single mother. I know that bringing a child into this very horrid situation would be the wrong decision, but I just don't know if I am strong enough to have an abortion, as selfish as that sounds. He has recently started seeing someone else (this has been going on before we broke up) so I think that has something to do with it. Any advice would be very welcome!

Quite a callus way of putting it, but as you don't love your ex and he is in a new relationship the two options mentioned are probably the only two options open to you (other than adoption).

Do remember if you choose the solo route, that your ex will still be financially obligated to support the child, but you cannot make him be a father.

What other options were you expecting?

One would hope some sort of amicable co-parenting arrangement could be reached but why would he offer to play happy families after you broke up because you don't love him? That wouldn't be good for anyone.

From the info you have given, they are the only two options. The relationship between you is over. You can be a single mother and he can be forced to contribute financially. He can not be forced to be an active father. He may become a good father and you can learn to successfully co-parent but this can not be forced.

The ball is in your court. It is awful but this is your decision to be made.