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[daiseehope]

My partner is ea. No physical or sexual threat though. Until Saturday when drunk when he went into a rant about lack of Sex blah blah.....He was horrid Question is can a relationship come back from one partner pressurising the other over sex. As a sex abuse survivor which he knows, this has knocked me down. Would this be it and has anyone heard of anybody that's sorted this out via therapy? We have 3 dcThanks xxxx

Why are you together at all?.

Counselling particularly joint counselling, is NEVER recommended when there is any type of abuse within the relationship. He would likely refuse to attend and even if he did, he could too easily use such a session to further emotionally abuse you with.

And no, a relationship cannot come back from what you describe. You need to be apart now. Womens Aid can and will help you here.

You do realise of course that the only level of abuse acceptable within a relationship is NONE.

Surely you do not want to model this dysfunctional model of a relationship to them any longer?.

You and by turn your children would be a lot happier apart from this awful man who is basically now dragging you and the kids down with him.

Only you can decide if he's crossed a line. If this man is normally emotionally abusive (a bully? controlling? domineering?) and you have previously decided you can tolerate it, then it sounds very much as though you have just experienced a 'last straw' moment. Joint therapy is not recommended where one party is a bully. However, you may benefit from individual therapy to help you clarify your thoughts.