Too much, too soon?

[galaxydefender82]

I am in a relationship with another woman (we are both female in case that matters), we met just 6 months ago and were smitten from day one, spent the whole summer together and have so much fun together. She lives about 30 minutes drive from me and isn't very accessible by bus.

She lives in the country, I live in town centre which she hates.

We spend every weekend together and she stays over once or twice during week, constantly texting/emailing.

She often jokes around and says she's gonna marry me one day and I'm the love of her life, we have both felt this from day one. Just so happy and in love.

Thing is, the dating and stuff is nice....really nice but I think I'm ready to take the next step, perhaps moving in together? Is this too soon?

I would need to learn to drive etc first and she said at the beginning that we shouldn't even discuss it till we've been together for at least a year as she moved in with a former partner quickly and it turned out terribly (got bored of each other, no sex, her ex then cheated).

Should I bring it up or wait for another 6 months as she suggested? This isn't a massive problem, just looking for advice :) WWYD?

I don't know why people put a timescale on things like this. It's seems really regimented. You'll get a place together when it suits both of you. No good only one of you wanting it.

It's too soon for her and that's all that matters. FWIW 'smitten' is not the ideal state of mind in which to make rational and lasting decisions. Six months is not really knowing someone... everyone's still on best behaviour by that point. She's experienced it first hand so I wouldn't try rushing her.

I wouldn't even consider it from the point of view of a non driving city dweller potentially moving to what sounds like a fairly isolated place [no buses]

I would be wary of early protestations of undying love too, also, measuring your relationships potential by her past relationship experience would bother me.

I would start learning to drive, for yourself not the relationship. It will take a while anyway, then you can see how you both feel.

Don't put a time scale on it. Why not just wait until she's ready and then suggest it. Don't make the same mistake as she did rushing into it. She's warning you when she says this so listen.

Yes I agree, it's probably too soon, just feels like we're ready, she keeps hinting at things but like you say, there's too many hurdles to cross first what with learning to drive etc.

if you aer really compatible, no point comparing to the past partners, and hopefully she's learned what matters to her after that experience and is choosing much better now with you .
Wouldn't she move in with you, instead of you driving? I'd suggest it if I wrer you, especially if that conversation was a while ago - but not if she's just said it recently obviously. Nothing to lose, is there. You can hjust have a chat, if she's not ready, fine. Otherwise it would seem that you are quite passive about what you want.