The shower is still leaking.

[FuckItLifeIsTooShort]

In fact everything is just about the same. Trouble with one of sons, no real agreement re finances, thinking about borrowing to get a solicitor, work causing huge stress and some very dark days. But I am surviving on the whole.

I think about the friends here who saw me through some of the crap times, especially B who helped paint my bedroom and just wanted to say I am still here. The fact I am still here owes a lot to you guys. Ta x

Guessed it was you from the title. Have wondered how you were getting on. Is ex on the same page as you regarding the DS having a tricky time? Or ostrich-like does he pretend nothing is wrong?

Hope that you manage to socialise occasionally. Sorry work is a strain.

Try asking on MN Property/DIY for advice on that blinking shower.

The shower needs totally refitting I think. Ex is very aware of probs with son and has made more effort recently to rein things in, not as I have been but closer. Still a bit head in the sand.

I am ok on the whole, not good but ok. Due at least in part to you guys. I hope the others chip in and let me know how they are.

I thought it would be you from the thread title as well. I have name changed since your last thread (was Pump) but sorry to hear things are still difficult.

We never did grab that cup of tea - the offer is still there. I am moving to 50/50 care in the new year (so so ) so will have lots more free time! would be lovely to finally meet

FuckIt! (((hugs))) I often wonder how you're doing. I'm sorry that your troubles are not being resolved but I think maintaining OK is hard enough so well done. If you can soldier on without dipping it will all improve.

My eldest got engaged last week so I have a wedding to organise in Portugal for next June.

The business has expanded so I'm trying to relieve DH of some of the balls that he's trying to juggle before he drops them!

I hope you're seeing friends as much as you can, and most importantly, telling them what's going on, and how you're feeling and asking them for help.

Hello, How lovely to find you again.! Glad you are backxxx

Friends around, no pretending now. Am getting on. Cjel how you doing? The wedding B, how lovely. Pump, It would be good to meet.

glad you have friends over, am I right you are a bit more hopeful?
I am doing well thanksxx

Friends around, no pretending now is very, very good news.

Really well done for letting them in, it's the most courageous thing you could have done and will be hugely beneficial for you. Keep it up. xxx

BBB.

More congrats to BBB - how exciting

Agree with everyone else that now your friends know what has happened, I am hoping they are stepping up and giving you lots of support. Got lovely weekend plans?

And yes to the although will probably need to be in the new year as am either Mum to two little loonies or Xmas shopping (or hopefully Xmas celebrating). Let me know when is good for you - weekends are probably best but am not far from you so could always grab a late hot chocolate near you some time!

You do sound stronger though and given everything you've been through and dealt with, I think you should be really proud of yourself. I know one day, not far away, you'll probably look back and not know how you did it - but you did, so big pats on back!

Know the run up to Christmas can be stressful at the best of times so just popped onto the thread to see how OP is getting on.

Any news?

Having a bit if a downer, the black hole is becoming more engulfing.

Depressing to read as well as write.

Not sure what to do and feel very daft

Sorry to hear this fuckit, I hope you're having some better days in amongst the dark ones. It's not bloody easy is it? Guess the impending 'festive forced family togetherness' season doesn't help.

Anyway, don't feel daft, you had a lifetime with someone so it's a slow process to feel right without them - specially when they cause a lot of extra heartache with all their crap. I'm glad to see you see you here again anyway, felt a bit lost when your thread disappeared, I'd been tagging along for ages, on the same kind of journey.

Hope you got your shower and your tax credits sorted out...x

Well. Completed divorce papers today and will post tomorrow. Having a wee blip but to be expected I guess. We have had a couple of meetings about money and that was never going to be good. Off work at the moment but looking forward to going back, oh and the shower is fixed! Now need to redecorate in there and get the floor fitted.

Would anyone dare laugh if I said the garage roof was leaking though?!!!!

X

Hello again,

I know it's the end of an era but it'll be the start of a new one, how are the DCs? Trust yourself, things will work. Anyone says differently, or is a doom-mongerer, their own life is most likely far from perfect.

That's good news about the shower, but boo hiss about the garage roof...!

How is work going?