It is 2 am and I cannot sleep, my mind has gone into overdrive again...so I thought I would ask for your opinion to make my sleepless night a bit more productive.
I am going through a terribly messy and acrymonyous divorce. At the moment, I am trying to sort out the financial settlement. I have been married for almost 15 years and a year ago I found out my husband was having sex with all sorts of women during the whole marriage. One of the encounters resulted in a child, which was born after a few months after our own child was born. I suspected something was not right but he always insisted I was imagining things and because of his emotional and physical abuse I changed from a confident woman to one who was nothing...so who was I to dispute anything when I had no proof? Then one of his girlfriends contacted me and that is when the truth came out. Luckily, I am gaining my confidence back but feel absolutely devastated that the man who I adored would do all this to me.
Now, back to my question. Of course, I am divorcing him and of course, he is terribly difficult and does not want to move out of our home nor give me anything in financial settlement. We have two small children and I want something for them. He has a flat he can go and live in but he tells me that he will stay to make my life as hard as he can. I love my home, have my friends around who have been helping me through all this so I will definitely not move. I want part of his flat or his pension or his savings, not everything but not nothing either. He says it is mean, I should just leave with nothing after 15 years. I am not mean, am I???