Once you've gone NC how do you deal with it if you meet unexpectedly?

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DH doesn't see his parents.

They think it's because I turned him against them, it wasn't, in fact if it wasn't for the value I place on family (having come from a "normal" family) it would have happened sooner. I kept persuading him to reconcile which in hindsight was wrong of me but I didn't fully understand at the time.

Anyway, I've been on a course this morning and the facilitator was the spitting image of FIL. I now know what it means when people say "it made my blood run cold"!

It wasn't him but what on earth would I have done if it was?

I have no idea but I understand that feeling very well! I have NC with an old friend and as Christmas approaches and the inevitable invites that come with it I feel the fear.

I can't avoid this person forever but would be very happy if he moved to oz and developed a flying phobia .

Its a horrible feeling op

I'm NC with my mother. I have often wondered this because we live in the same town and there are only so many supermarkets and so many shopping centres and so many libraries...

I have decided that I will just ignore her as I would do any other stranger. I very much doubt she would approach me, but if she did, I would treat her as I would any other stranger who was paying me unwanted attention. She wouldn't dare push it, due to the nature of us being NC.

But yes, I would just ignore her.

It's only happened to me once in 3 years but we passed each other as if we are strangers (which we are now, really).

My dh doesn't see his parents either, I worry about bumping into them. Our nearest city is the same as theirs and I'm sure it will happen one day. His parents don't even know how many children we have, I dread bumping into them when we have the children with us.

Ignore sounds good, but I don't think his mother would ignore. She may cry and scream - despite the NC being their choice.

I have a plan with dh that if we do bump into them I will take the children and he will deal with it. If I'm alone, which is most likely because I work in the city sometimes, I'll ignore and walk away very fast indeed. I do find myself looking out for them though - which is not nice.

Yes, I sometime find myself on high alert too, Procrastinating. It isn't very nice. :(