OW is she trying to contact me

[Theglen]

I have been receiving messages from LinkedIn that the woman my husband had an affair with wants to contact me.
It's a professional network for business associates.
I have no reason to be linked to her.
He has also recieved the same messages as me.
She has my email address as I contacted her during the affair.
It has been over as far as I'm aware for the past year.
Is she trying to stirr up trouble or is it just an automated thing from LinkedIn .
I have tried their website but I need to join to get any information.
Are any MN members of LinkedIn .

If you are receiving messages from her then she has asked to be linked to you on LinkedIn.

No, it's not automated.

I think someone has to want to talk to you for you to get a message that they want to talk to you.

But doesn't linkedin suggest people based on connections to people you know and they know.

But if you aren't on linkedin I wonder why it's doing it.

Unless it's just because she's got your email address and it's somehow connecting to her address book?

Does it suggest her as someone to connect with or actually say that she has a message for you?

If she wanted to contact you - she'd surely just email you, since she has your email.

For that reason, I'd put it down as some sort of automatic thing.

It MAY be automated. Sometimes when you join these things it will ask you to import all your email contacts and add these as contacts on the networking site. It may will be unintentional.

Yes, that's true.

If you're not even on LinkedIn and she has no clue what she is doing, she could have sent out an invitation to the site to everyone she knows.

I often get LinkedIn requests from people who then tell me it was automated. Friends' dhs and dws etc

I used to be on linkedin and accidentally sent a message to my entire email address book, asking if they wanted to be linked with me. it was very embarrassing.

Yes it may be automated, I've had request months later, it's because you are not replying, it comes to you again.

If she clicked 'find my friends' at start up, it will have automatically sent invites to everyone she's been in email contact with.

Don't assume anything, unless you get personalised messages,

LinkedIn contacted all my email addresses when I started using it and some of those where ones from years back that I hasn't even deleted so it is possible she has done it without realising.

LinkedIn goes through your email addresses and if you don't respond, it automatically sends you a reminder every so often.
What exactly does the message say? If she was trying to contact you at this point in time, she can write you a personal message.
If it's standard linked in text, it's probably just automated reminder.

Yes it's probably automated. I've had lots of linkedin requests from various random people and I'm not on it.

Happened to me too when I joined linked in. Automatically contacted people I definitely didn't want to be linked to!

Thegien - did you say you were on LinkedIn too?
If you have an upgraded account you see exactly who has looked you up.. If you were a suggestion to them via networking or is she has literally name searched you.

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Surely if she intentionally wanted to talk she would just email having already having your address?????

I'm not on Linkedin but have had requests to link from someone, he only had my email as I'd enquired about kindle repairs.

Thanks everyone, I feel reassured now.
I was afraid she was being malicious. Trying to stir up trouble.

Unlikely.

Given that your husband got the same message (and neither of you are on LinkedIn) she probably inadvertently sent those messages to everyone she knows.

I had one from my XH and thought WTF? But when I checked my account, it wanted to bring in everybody in my email address book, so I guess the same happened to the OW

It'll be automated.

I've been getting requests from the secretary of the private surgeon I went to earlier this year and had only ever spoken in the phone to. Not amused but not upsetting like this must be for you

All these sites - linkedin, facebook, etc, etc, - are now trying to maximise their user base and there is so much trawling going on.

I regularly get emails in my inbox asking me if I know such and such person on Facebook - I AM NOT EVEN ON Facebook but I get emails asking me if I know such and such person... and I do but I often have not seen them in over a decade... and they would have had a decade old email address... but still, somehow, the link has been made... Spooky.

To the OP - the OW is probably as freaked out as you are as she may well be getting 'friend requests' from you - lol.

I know 2 people where LinkedIn sent messages to every person they'd ever e mailed! Imagine the horror!

"LinkedIn sent messages to every person they'd ever e mailed! Imagine the horror!"

Well technically, THEY sent every person they'd ever e-mailed a LinkedIn message.

It's not automated. You have to sign in to LinkedIn and give permission for them to access your address book (some address books add the e-mail address of everyone you e-mail).

The problem is that people don't realise that that's what they're giving permission for.

Sometimes the messages are written in such a way that they make it seem as though "finding your friends" will just show you a list of your friends, rather than sending out messages to all of them.

My ex DP thoughtlessly sent out a Linkedin request to everyone in his contacts. Because his address book was somehow linked to his facebook, this request went to my dad and loads of my friends who'd he'd added even though he'd only met them a couple of times. They all had a low opinion of him by this point, so ignored it, but then kept getting reminders. It was infuriating for them and me and I had to send him and email telling him what a nuisance it was.

This woman has probably added everyone by accident.

Ah, that explains why I've been getting linked in requests from loads of random people, and people who I barely know, etc, etc, and I'm not even on linked in.

I thought I was popular all of a sudden!