Attracted to the unobtainable

[Mrscropper]

Hi all, just wondered what others views where on this.

I, like many people I guess have crushes on 'celebs'. I don't really look at RL men and find them attractive tbh. It's not that I have a seriously high opinion of myself or very high stands I just don't see guys in the real world and think ooh he's yummy lol. My main 2 crushes are on michael buble & alan haff (from tv's auction hunters).

I'm not obsessive about my crushes but I do fantasise about them occasionally and often dream about them. My dreams are never sexual, they're more dating type dreams. I happen to meet one of my crushes, we get chatting, I'm asked out on a date and we spend time enjoying each other's company, laughing, joking and a good night kiss at the end of the evening. It's all very nice and romantic tbh.

I think fantasising about celebrities is quite normal really, especially if it helps you get to sleep! How old are you?

People will tell you you aren't going to meet someone who looks like a celebrity in real life, but tbh many celebrities are not so hot but just well presented, made up, trimmed, toned, well dressed, well photographed, etc..

You might be one of those people for whom looks and being something slightly out of the ordinary is what you are attracted to. Theres nothing wrong with that. We're all biologically programmed in certain ways. You just need to find a man who replaces the celebrities in your dreams!

Are you in a relationship in real life? Are you dating?

Is it because it's all very safe? You know that you are not going to be having relationships with them so it's removed from reality.

SavoyCabbage is right. It's safe. If it's a fantasy character like a celebrity you can write the script and make the story-line of the romance pan out exactly as you want. No risk involved. With real people it's a lot messier and you're not in charge. Arguably, that's what makes it more fun...

Totally agree with cogito and savoy ,
Its the perfect romantic story you can create and end it like the fairly tales.

I'm not surprised to say i quiet often dream with a celeb (Danny Mac from Hollyoaks!) and with the current episodes of my love life..in my dreams its all perfect and no drama . I know I sound delusional but hey ho!

I have a top secret crush. I luffs him . He gives me all the bits I want and need that the DH doesnt because frankly DH is not psychic.

I think I get on better with DH as a result.

well that's so nice for you.

I gave up crushes on slebs when I was about 13. I think I liked the dark one in the Man from Uncle.

I'm 46 and been with DH for over 25 years lol. I have no thoughts of wanting another man. DH & i have our ups and downs like most couples but everything's fine at the moment. I'd never cheat on DH and he is fully aware of my 'crushes' he has his too, I tease him when beyonce comes on tv cos he thinks she's hot. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, it's just fun and not real.

Loopyloulu - your posts make me chuckle, you remind me of katie Hopkins :D

Hey, no need for name calling or swear words!

Do you look in these celebrities for something you feel it's missing in your marriage? Do you think you might be missing on romance?

I admit to have crushes on celebrities, but have never dreamt about any. Shame.

For sure Lweji, DH is not romantic at all. He used to be before DC came along & family life took over. He used to bring me a bunch of pink carnations home from work every Friday. I'm cheap to keep I don't particularly like roses lol. He'd buy me little inexpensive gifts and keepsakes if he was away but never had anything bar a card and the odd bunch of flowers on Mother's Day.

I don't really mind not getting gifts, flowers etc and it wouldn't bother me too much if I didn't get a card. Money's been tight over the years and it's not always the main priority, but a little romance wouldn't go a miss now and then.

I'm always honest with him. I don't like keeping secrets and lying so he knows I wouldn't do that. He's not great at communication and we've discussed this recently and he's trying a bit harder.

For me its the sexy accent. Rural Berkshire is just not as hot at Scots in my opinion . Plus I daydream about telling mundane things to crush that DH would not listen to.

DH fancies the pants off Paris Hilton . Don't get me wrong I adore my DH but lets face it men rarely live up to the fantasy and certainly not all day every day. I imagine if I ever meet crush I would be disappointed.

ooh Lweji. Richard Armitage. hmm... not now imagining a threesome with him, oh no