Worried that H is cheating

[hamishcat1]

How worried should I be? Viagra in briefcase that appears to be getting used (separate from supply in bedroom), recent joining of cross training fitness class, found USB with porn images that is kept in his car. Receipt for phone handset.This all feels so bad, after a good marriage and four children. I have not confronted him, I just feel like a snooper and I want to believe that nothing is going on but my gut feeling tells me there is.

I'd check out whether he is attending the exercise class and maybe text him at lunchtime and if he says he's in his office, I'd find an excuse to ring his landline to check (or do it via an unknown phone number).

I would trust my instincts but I wouldn't accuse or be tooo questioning without more to go on.

I agree, if he is up to something then he will be more careful once he knows that you are suspicious. What day does he go to his fitness class?

Well it doesn't look good! I would try and find more evidence m, check if he's actually going to fitness class, is where he says he is, keep a tab on the Viagra, when any go missing etc then confront him but without saying what you know or how. You don't have to explain that to him 'I know' is enough of an explanation! Does he use the phone in front of you? How many phones does he have (work,home,secret?)