His kissing techniques

[thirdtimemum]

Hi been with new chap some time now but find it odd he doesn't ever give me french kisses or tongue exchanges. I personally find it sexy and sensual, just get lip to lip contact which I find immature. All other guys have kissed me like that before and quite honestly would love a good old tongue bath!!! I thought all couples kissed like that or am I wrong? Did ask him about it but said he didn't like it as felt cleaning each others teeth.
Sex is OK but he can't seem to understand I can't come with humping sex and need clitoris stimulation. Never faked a climax as feel giving off unrealistic views of the relationship to him and hoped he asked why I didn't. In his experience (3 partners before) he hadn't come across needing clitoris stimulation.

He sounds like he needs a bit of guidance - maybe other women just didn't express their feelings to him?

How does he react when you mention these things to him?

What is his take on oral sex? [him to you]

"I thought all couples kissed like that or am I wrong?"

Yes. My wife hates it and has never done it since trying it 2 or 3 times years ago.

As for the clitoral stimulation, what planet has he been on?

Sounds like you're just sexually incompatible to me! I really like kissing as well but some people don't really like it. I think DP is not particularly fussed but

If his reaction to "I need clitoral stimulation" is "Well none of the other [in the incredibly huge sample size of three ] women needed that!" then I'd run a mile TBH - he doesn't sound considerate or accepting of your needs in the bedroom at all! I mean, come on, give something a go?!

Maybe he just hasn't had a partner who was able to tell him what she needed, rather than no one who needed anything other than a quick hump. How does he seem in terms of his response when you tell him? is it like "oh, I didn't realise" or more like "well I've never met anyone needed that"

Sorry

DP is not that fussed but he doesn't dislike it and will both initiate and accept it, and when he does it he does it nicely.

By some time now do you mean "married for 17 years"?

Suggest others don't share tittilate further.

hmm

Hmmm I had a partner like this once. Terrible! He also refused to give me oral sex ( wanted it himself tho). He was from South America and his excuse was that no men did that there...WTF?

He was younger than me and his previous girlfriends were not v sexually experienced ( and therefore didn't know any different ) so that was all he knew. Unless you are up for training him ( and him being receptive to that) I think you may be in for some frustrating sex....

I never do proper kisses unless we're having sex, I find it pretty cringey even then....

OP he sounds awful.
Hes basically saying that because his 3 previous girlfriends put up with him having sex ON them rather than WITH them then you should too.
Bet hes having his fucking orgasm

I would also be disappointed with the closed kissing too.

My husbands ex never, ever touched tongues with him. She did little pecks even during sex.
I have always snogged the blokes face off, tongues and all! Even if he was rubbish at kissing I would just go for it and they always came back for more
My husband fell in love with me the instant our tongues touched and we can make out for hours kissing is awesome!