As its nearly Xmas I'm tempted to send my ex a parcel with all his pathetic gifts back...

[Scarletohello]

Should I?

They were nothing special. A watch he got on eBay, a cigarette case, some leopard print leggings ( that I have never worn, yuk) and a stupid mug with hearts on and chocolates inside ( never ate the chocolates, and it was last December...)

I broke up with him Jan 1st as he was a lying cheating bastard but have found it really hard to move on. I want to send his presents back and say to him I'm sending them back as I don't want any reminders of him in my life. I also want to send him a long letter telling him all the things I still feel the need to say to him that keep going round my head, especially late at night. I asked him if he would meet me for a completion conversation in August but he said it was ' too soon' ( translate, he was too much of a coward to face me) so I've never had the opportunity to day what I needed to to his face so writing a letter is all I've got. I know it's mean doing it at Xmas time but I think it might help me finally let go... What do people think?

Oh, and a big parcel of Everything You Ever Gave Me - it is also called I Am Still In Love With You.

all it would do is give him the biggest ego boost in the world.

I've put the remainder of my husbands stuff in a charity bag for the air ambulance. I've just watched them collect it.

It feels great that we have nothing of his in the house anymore. Fresh start.

Well if he was a lying prat what makes you think you would feel able to trust what he told you? He isn't going to give you that, you just have to learn to move on without it.

No, don't let him know it still bothers you. Donate the stuff to charity and move on.

Oh, and a big parcel of Everything You Ever Gave Me - it is also called I Am Still In Love With You.

This. He will be flattered that it's been almost a year and you're still not over him.

Give it away to charity and don't look back!

Well, OP , this is me a few weeks ago. I am afraid I gave all his gifts back along with his keys. I could have given then away but I wanted him to know I'd cleared all remnants of him (except the lovely birthday digital radio obviously) and he can them have the pain in the arse job of doing summat with it all, he has a small house. Petty, I know, but like you I just felt I wanted to do something. Wasted 4 years on him.

I am in the process if writing a letter. I will
Probably send mine this weekend. But it's quite a cold analysis of his past and not really a sad , 'I still
Love you' type thing. Yeah, I appreciate it could boost his ago ('she's still thinking if me whilst I shag my
Shiny new girlfriend') but I know his Achilles heel and I have a few home truths for his 'spiritual' soul.

Write it, sit on it, ask a friend to read it. It's a long time after the event to send it.

Nooooooooo!
Keep your dignity. You'll regret sending it. Maybe not even for a few years, but one day you'll look back and cringe.
He won't care - it won't make him feel bad. I don't mean this harshly, I've been cheated on too. If it would make him feel bad, he wouldn't have been a lying cheating bastard type in the first place.
Charity shop / bin.
Write the letter and burn.
Don't contact him!

Don't do it. Keep your dignity.. but do give them away, smash them, bury them or burn them.
Get them out of your life. As soon as you let go of these objects, and say a final goodbye emotionally, you will create the space for someone new and nicer to enter your life.

Don t send it back because some other poor mare will end up with it He sounds like that sort of bloke.Burn it and burn it good.You will feel mush better.

Don't send him anything, no gifts, no letter, nothing. It'll just make you look a big unhinged, give him a big old boost that you haven't moved on, and you will feel awful afterwards when you get no reaction from him.