ohhhhhhhhhhhhh scary!
Just wasn't bloody having anymore of it so had to say something.
Had a party for my PIL on Sunday. SIL and D's brother arrived Sat nite. She basically totally blanked me, again. Avoided all eye contact etc. I was fuming and told D and his mum that that was it, she could piss off and they both said 'ohhh giveher half an hour'. Yeah right, I've given her 7 years! D's sister later confimedn that SIl does indeed have a problem with me. Basically, without putting too finer a point on it, she's jealous. Mainly of my relationship with my FIL. She can't get on with him. He is very difficult but I accept his ways as I actually love the man, also like him and if he pisses me off or is out of line i say something. She just fumes, takes the things he says and bottles up her resentment and anger and now just never comes round etc.
So I had it out with her. I asked for a quiet word and she really didn't want to but it had to be done. She ran off saying she'd see what her DH was doing. Then tried to avoid me so I gort her on her own again and repeated my request to which she blurted out 'Ohhhh that's right, you're the good opne againa nd I'm the baddie'.
I took her to one side and she basically doesn't like me as she thinks I took my confirmation just to please my FIL (rubbish) thinks I'm up his arse (bollocks I just quite like him and treat him the same I do anyone else), was so, so pleased my last child wasn't a boy as she knows he wants a grandson and would never have gotten over me giving him one. Thinks I flirt with my FIL (rubbish - I'm friendly and bubbly and have a laugh with him, I know how to handle him and we get on really well. He's so similar to my DP but 1000 times worse! I'm the same with him as I am my own dad and my uncles etc)
She said she wanted me to be her allie (sp?) but I told her I couldn't bve as I didn't feel the same about him that she did but it didn't mean that we had to be sworn enemies.
I see him almost weekly, she might see him once a year.
I don't take offence, she does.
He does prefer me, it's obvious and he's pretty much told me that, but that';s his wrongdoing and not my fault.
Not sure where we go from here but at least I sort of cleared the air. There was too much to say and not enough time with other peoiple wanting to get into the kitchen etc.
Hopefully she won't just blank me like that anymore and we can go from there.
Hopefully she'll feel more inclined to come to family functions now?????