Hi all :)
This is my first thread, as I'm kind of new here.
My dp and I have 3 dc between us. I have 2 ds's (9&10) who live with us from my previous marriage and dp has 1 dd (7) who stays with us 3 days per week.
My dp dislikes my xh because he only sees the boys eow (if he can't think of an excuse not to) and doesn't pay anywhere near enough maintenance despite having a well paid job. I agree with him, but I really don't mind. I'd rather the dc were here with us anyway and although dp and I both only work part time, we manage.
I detest dp's xp because she is an awful person. She does the bare minimum as far as parenting goes. When with her mum, Dsd eats ready meals every night, school uniform is never washed or changed during the week, all her clothes are hand me downs and we have to buy uniforms, shoes, coats when needed as mum will just let her go without. We pay maintenance which mum just spends on herself, her two younger kids, her string of boyfriends and partying. I can't stand her.
Anyway, dp and I are getting married next summer and we don't want to invite our exes, but we think the dcs would like them there. The dcs have no idea that we don't like our xp's as I deal with my ex, dp deals with his ex and that way, everything is amicable (mostly, anyway).
Dsd has already expressed how much she can't wait to show her bridesmaid dress to her mum and siblings, and my ds's like to see their dad whenever they can, so I guess they'll expect him to be there.
What should we do? I don't even like to walk past dp's ex in the street, nevermind have her at my wedding and dp hates my xh's casual, uncaring approach to spending time with his kids. Awbu not wanting them there?
Please help... Oh and I'm sorry for getting a bit ranty there, in the middle... I really didn't mean to slate her, but it drives me mad how naff she is. she does hardly anything for dsd.