user or not?

[WorkAlot]

How do we know when we are being used for sex. Im in a relationship with this man but we dont spend any time outside my house. Im not thick its just i need some advice from others peoples perspective.

How long have you been in the relationship.
Was there ever any dating before sex?
Why have you not been to his hous?
All sounds very odd to me - sorry.

By 'don't spend any time outside my house' do you mean you don't go on dates, don't spend any time at his place, don't meet his friends/family ... that kind of thing? I'm sure you're not thick. Do you feel like you're being used?

7 years we ve been together. I have been to his house just to sleep over.no dating at all.

He doesnt ever want to get married which has caused lots of problems. He has done alot for me like make sure im not homeless and doesnt let me and kids go without but its all very frustrating.

Yes i do feel a little used. I just want a normal relationship.

You sound more like a pet than a partner. Are you saying he pays for you and your kids but then expects this droit de seigneur deal in return? Don't you socialise together at all? Have you met his family?

Imagine the same set up 10 years from now. Are you happy? If not, do something about it.

Have you spoken to him about it?

What, no social life with him outside of four walls AT ALL? In 7 years?

I'd be a basket case. And so fucking bored no matter how mind-blowing the sex was.

How often does he go to yours?
Does he contribute a fair share to the household expenses?

Have you met his family?
Do you always have sex when he goes over? Does he spend days/weekends or just stays overnight?
Presumably he never goes out with you as a family, even?

Does he have any friends?
Does he go out by himself or has a hobby outside of the house?

Are the children his?