It's a miracle some of us do survive though isn't it, so close do most get to wanting the agony and heartbreak to stop. It's scary, it's isolating, it's full of despair and hope is taken away.....temporarily! That's the point. We are forced to find strengths we didn't know we had, find resources hitherto untapped.
And yes we do. We do get through it, the survival instinct kicks in and why should a devious lowlife take our wellbeing/health/sanity from us, when all we've done is love them, give them children, kept lovely homes etc. - and thought we were doing ok.
If life is all about learning and experiencing all things, then I've learnt my lessons thank you, and yes it has made me stronger, less naïve, and with healthy suspicion. I've also learnt with amazement, what cruelty some partners knowingly inflict on their loved ones/children - year on year sometimes. It takes my breath away. I don't like revenge, hatred, nastiness, mental or physical cruelty, verbal abuse.....whether to animal, child or adult.
I've learnt to stay single, I want no more pain. I'm older, I've survived, I've learnt from a very painful series of events...... just feel so sad for ones that have gone under in some way and can't get back.
'Trust' - it's a very fragile, easily damaged, elusive and precious thing - don't give it away that quickly, you may never get it back again.