hello
Me and my husband have been together nearly 4 years (3years of marriage)!
We have 1 yo boy.
The problem is that since (just before) the marriage we have been arguing, screaming, shouting at each other for many things... I didn't like that he was to persistent, he was smoking (he said he would stop), he was without visa (basically illegal, but it wasn't a problem because we really fell in love), we don't have nothing in common, he is not passionate or the man I wanted him to be, as well he is Muslim and I'm not which is as well no problem because we agreed to adjust to each other needs. I'm the person who wants for my family to be happy, so I'm doing everything it takes (obviously 50/50 with husband - including washing, scrubbing, cooking and ect.).
He doesn't respect me, he takes advantage of me being forgiving and forgetting for things he have said, and done. I fed up telling him common things (for example: keep your voice down baby is sleeping, or if you didn't kept your promise quitting cigarettes - go make yourself fresh.. And there is 100 things more what any person would think as a common sense). Plus he is making comments, and I have to adjust to his mood, he can't be romantic or passionate, there is no flowers or gifts or taking to nice places.... I mean these are things what I want and he can't do it, and it doesn't cost a lot, just £5 bouquet of flowers would do the trick... As I understand things!
I am tired, upset, emotionally drained, annoyed by his behaviour and exsousted living with him...
Just today, I asked him "would he be able to pick up my aunty from airport".... He answered me "why should I!" Comon' man.... Ahhhhhh!
Well, I told him that we should share the house, but live under one roof separated (not divorced)... I guess I just need to be strong in my decision and do it, and see what happens, if there is nothing... Than it could lead to divorce.... I do try to improve everything, but my husband is stubborn... And when he agrees to do something, I have to listen that he is not happy about something, or he rushes us to get on with it we are doing, he doesn't enjoy this life with me...
As well, I have to tell him everything about how to take care of his own child, even though this is mine first as well..... Duhhhhh!
I hate him, I feel like I want to get out of this and have fun, to live my life rather than spending it at the house!
Please, leave a comment or advice, anything will help! I would like to see what do you think from the viewers position (it this case readers)!
Thank you, for your time, most appreciated!