my ex has tried adding my old ex on fb

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My ex - who i have just broken up withto add my otherolder ex on facebook.

My other ex. Which is the father of my 5 yr old, thinks this is very weird.

What on earth is his reasons behind this do u think
I have an injunction and things

Tried to add my older ex on facebook. It wss meant to say. Silly phone

If you have an injunction you should report this. It is not normal for him to friend request your ex unless they are actual friends.

No they arent friends. My older ex dropped my son off today telling. Saying it was really weird and he doesnt understand why.
Neither do i, but i feel terrible. I dont want my sons dad being brought into this

I don't get what the issue is here. Your son's father, an adult, chooses not to add someone he doesn't want to. (I'm not too familiar with Facebook).

From what you've said before won't this guy is out to cause trouble for you in anyway he can. Ask your older ex to ignore him and if he carries on requesting maybe he could report him to Facebook for harassment

I have just reported this to the police. An officer wkll be out in the morning to see me since i have had so many previous reports.

My ex did ignore him. I have also told him that if anything else happens to let me know.

I dont understand what trouble he could cause though. The only thing i can think of is by trying to pull my ex over onto his side. But that just wont work. He has known me since we were kids, and doesnt know him at all.

Other than thaat...i have no idea what his game could be

Vivacia - its just the fact my ex has no reason at all to add my older ex on facebook. I have an injunction in place. He is the kind to play games - and this seems to be the case with this one.

What his game is though, i dont know. I wish i knew!

his game may be to enlist support for his "cause"...

which may be sympathy for his situation, reinforcement for his feelings that everything is your fault...

But me and older ex get on great. To the point my ex is convinced i will be with him soon enough. He spent the best part of our relationship calling him "super (name)" lol

So surely he knows the sympathy would never work. Who knows. Hes mentally unstable
He probably doesnt even know why he has contacted him

He's trying to keep tabs on you via the ex. Probably hoping to confirm you are getting back with him. Predictable.

He's making sure you're giving him headspace?

Well that isnt going to happen. An ex is an ex for a reason.
I dont understand what you mean by giving him headspace, fluffy? Sorry

I think Fluffy means that your ex wants to make sure that you keep thinking about him. That he wants to mess with your head (in which case, he has managed to do so).

I think it's a good thing that you reported him if he has an injunction. Just make sure neither you nor anyone in your environment respond. He's trying to get a response out of you.

Perhaps it's something to do with Facebook privacy settings - do you have anything on FB (photos, status updates, events) that friends of friends can see? Maybe he's hoping to keep tabs on you that way.

When my DP's exW broke up with her subsequent P, he and his family all tried to cosy up to my DP. They obviously thought he'd be on their side, against their mutual ex. He refused to engage, and it all tailed off once it was obvious he was going to be no use to them. Utterly bizarre, but I imagine your recent ex will give up when he gets no response from older ex. On that avenue, at least.

I'd just check he's not tried to friend your other fb friends too.

Thanx
No one is going to respond to him. I hope anyway
I dont know who else he has tried adding
I deletedmy facebook the day i told him to go as all his family was messaging me.

I know my older ex has his facebook on private. So im guessing if my ex had access to his page he would have had no reason to add him

I'd suspect he wants to have access to your profile via your older ex somehow.

ah, he might be about to attempt a smear campaign.

I will have to link you to something, so you're forewarned and forearmed.

part one of five, smear campaigns

Thanx for that mumpiring. That sounds about right haha. He has already turned his family against me by playing the victim. I only told him i wasnt putting up with his aggressive and moody behaviour, nor was i prepared to put my kids through it.

All hell broke loose.

I got a letter from mediation today. He can sod off with that one. I dont want to sit in the same room as him. Ill go through the courts to get a more stable arrangement.

I am not a facebook user, so a few confusing things here...

Isn't a friend request designed to add people with whom you are not friends on the site?...and no doubt some people 'request' from people they don't actually know, but can't the other person just ignore/block them?

Why the Police?... I'd be very surprised if the OP's injunction was broad enough to stops her ex from contacting 'other' people (i.e. her 'other' ex).

Sorry OP, but I get the hint you might be just a bad as each other when it comes to the politics in the aftermath of your relationship.

I didnt want anything done with the police. I was advised to log everything and so have done just that.

I have to disagree with you on being just as bad. Im trying to do whats best for our son, i dont see bad in that.
I havent contacted him, or any member of his family since we split. Neither have any of my family contacted him.
I have followed every bit of advice given and done everything properly.