SO ANGRY I MIGHT EXPLODE!!!!

[Fizog]

AAAAAAARRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

Stupid fckin, @rse, Wnker

Just had to get that off my chest. Just phoned me at work to ask for more access to DD. I said I'd think about it, he said no I want a decision now. I said in that case no he couldn't see her more often. Then couldn't get him off the phone, bloody hell wish I had enough money to do something about him once and for all.

Sorry just needed to get that off my chest aas am in an open plan office quitelty imploding with anger and frustration

I agree ... let's get another thread somewhere for those of us who are in the same situation. Best not to call it 'the other woman' though! That implies our DP may of left the marital home for us and that's not my case!

BeckiF - I apologise if I sounded short I was in a rush to get to a meeting. A combination of my appauling punctuation/not proof reading and a rushed brain dump probably lead to you thinking that I was accusing you of accusing me of using dd as a pawn, this was not the case.

I'd just like to say that I have also been 'on your side of the fence' so-to-speak as dd's father (nor paternal family) were allowed to see his other dd for quite a long period of time. I have watched dds half sisters mother use her dd as a pawn so I understand where you are coming from with what you say. This is why until now I have gone out of my way to make sure that his family still see dd, I have posted in the past about how I always ensure that I don't plan things on their birthdays etc in casae he want's to see her... just wanted to add that and didn't know where to look for your new thread.

Obviously that should read

(nor paternal family) were NOT allowed to

nope that still doesn't make sense - I give up I'm rubbish today.

You know what I mean!

Fizog - bless your heart! Take a chill pill and a day off!! Glad it's all sorted between us all! There's enough grief in the world without US having tensions!

Plenty of love and warm hugs to you xxxx

hi Fizog and all,
I'm know how you all feel, I have 2kids ( sorry don't understand the abreviations yet !) with one ex bastard, who had a good relationship with 1st child, although split while I was preg. Then silly me got back and got preg. (planned) split a 2nd time, as you can imagine it got nasty, he went to solicitors, put me through hell while I was in early stages of pregnancy. I went through untolds amount of stress. I managed to talk him round after a few months. Then he met s/one else-yippee! I had 2nd babe, he then had w/end visits for 1st child, which I hated every 2nd of.
Then i met someone ( sounds like a soap doesnt it) Ex never paid any attention to 2nd babe, but still threatened re 1st. Then.... his girlfriend got pregnant and after about 6 months he just said he didnt want to see 1st child anymore and that it was all for 1st childs benefit - yeah right!!!! Much easier for me though!

MORAL OF THE STORY !!!!- he said for years his kid most important thing in the world to him, but he moved on very fast, just like so many other men do. So hold tight, try and chill,( very hard I felt the hatred too!) and you never know......

Fizog, Hope you are feeling better and have a good weekend. Even my Mum always asks if it is OK to talk, when she calls me at work. He is (as usual) totally out of order. Your parents sound really kind; it is really not OK for you to ask your dad for a loan so you can see the solicitor again? You could go to a citizen's advice bureau instead, I suppose, but I thought you seemed to like that solicitor, and you wouldn't have to tell the whole story all over again. What is happening with your CSA claim? I got a notice of payments in October, but am still waiting. Every month they issue a revised payment schedule with more and more arrears, ie a higher figure each month. They are now supposed to be getting his employers to deduct it - what a loser to let it come to that when he is well into the higher tax bracket. In the years when I was having money problems and struggling, I just could not cope with applying and having that extra hassle; it is really good that you have put in your claim early. Just remember that these money worries are temporary. Whatever your ex does, remember that you are clever and working hard too, and as you get experienced you will get payrises and the future will be better.