Why am I always the one to contact my friends?

[Lonelygran]

They always sound pleased to hear from me, and we will meet up and have a great time. But then we lose touch again for months and I don't hear from them, and it's always me that gets in touch. Anyone able to help me with this? Feeling lonely today.

Such is life. People are busy. Most groups of friends have a 'plan maker' and you sound like yours.

If you have a nice time when you do get together, is it worth looking for faults?

Do u have different lifestyles? They have young kids yours are grown up? Maybe they work shifts. I don't see my friends that often but we usually each make an effort once every few months to meet at a restaurant & talk like we always do. Such is life & life is busy for most people.

I am busy too. Maybe I should just suck it up as people seem to be suggesting.

Could you wait a bit longer before contacting them? Their 'must see friends' interval might be set for a bit longer than yours.

You could also join a weekly group for more people contact on a regular basis. I've joined a weekly craft group and although they're not my friends (yet?), it's nice to see some familiar faces each week

Do they know this is how you are feeling? Are your family aware? Sometimes people assume your ok because we don't like talking about how we are really feeling. It's ok to admit your lonely. Maybe if you did they would try harder.

Also try an keep busier take up a new hobby, go for walks, or my favourite spend time in big libraries. You get to watch the world go by, relax & learn new things or just enjoy a good story.

Hope your feeling happier soon.