Fed up of this feeling

[mummytasha11]

Hi everyone

Me and my ex split up in march we were together for 8 years we have a 2 year old ds who was planned for and wanted by both of us. We had booked our wedding for August and he just decided he didn't want it anymore and wanted to live the single life - transpired he had been lying and had a ons with someone whilst I was pregnant which i only found out about after we had split up.
Since then he has tried to get back with me saying he realised what he lost blah blah...I basically said it wasn't going to work because I could never trust him again and he ruined everything we had.
But.....7 months on and I still miss him and wonder if I have made the right decision in not having him back.
He is in a relationship now (found out through Facebook) I haven't asked him about it...but it tears me up to think of him with someone else and the fact that I can't seem to move on ( I have had a few flings but I can't let anyone get close to me because they are not him.

Really need some advice please

Also I am invited to a wedding tonight that he is an usher at - the thought of him celebrating someone else's wedding when he went running scared of his own really annoys me and is making me feel like i don't want to go...

Oh lovely, you absolutely made the right decision (ons while you we're pregnant?!), don't look back.
It will hurt; you were together a long time and have a child together, but that doesn't mean he's not a complete twunt or that you haven't done the right thing. You have.

Focus and you and ds, do the things that you enjoy together and, if you have childcare or support, try to take some time for you. That may sound cliched but it does sounds like it would help you to think about yourself and get your attention away from him. Are there any hobbies you've let slide or friends to go out with? And when the time is right, you'll meet someone worthy of you and your ds.
I personally wouldn't go to the wedding (I hate feeling any discomfort at the best of times!), but that's up to you. Sending you a hug.

So..the update is I didn't go to the wedding and I am glad and today I felt much better.
However I'm now sat in tears over him being photographed with girl friends of mine close - how pathetic am I?
I don't want everyone to be laughing at me if he done something with someone at the wedding

Hi....you said he did ask for a second chance but you said no and now you feel you might be regretting it......? Well people make mistakes like this all the time and they do regret it but you have to be sure if he is really what you want before you even think of breaking up his new relationship. You have some soul searching to do but if you decide that you want to at least try, then I would send him a simple text asking him if he ever thinks about how it would be if we had tried again. That's all. Then see if and how he responds. Only one contact though then leave it.

I don't want to be back with him as I know it wouldn't work...I think the most hurtful thing is his complete lack of empathy to what has happened - he has completely broken me and he is living the life of Riley singledom with no responsibilities and parading around with a big grin on his face at other peoples weddings....when the thought of other people being happy makes me sad at what I could of had.

Then you need to cut yourself off from being able to see him on facebook. You sound like you want him back and are still in love with him but say you don't want to get back with him so you how to just wait and let time pass then and stop checking out what he is doing in his life. Hard I know but you need to protect yourself.