Is this normal? Moving in with partner and he's driving me crazy!

[PenelopePitstops]

Not sure if this is normal or not!
I'm 25
Brought a new flat a few weeks ago and moved in with partner a week ago.
During this time it has been amazing but so he's driven mad on Octob. (over nothing in particular!)

My parents live very close and I have found myself going to their house (where I used to Iive) after work every day. I don't understand why.

How long have you been seeing each other? Have you bought the flat together?

Did he live with his parents before? Is it a question of both of you adapting to living away from " home"?

In the first two weeks of living with my boyfriend we very nearly split up.

That was ten years ago; we have been married for nine. He still abandons his socks all over the floor

If you're used to how you live then any change feels disruptive and intimidating.

Hope things settle for you both soon.

I think it is fairly normal. Especially if this is all new to you.
You have been so used to the way you have lived before this.
You are adapting to his way of living, and he is yours.
Give it time.
It is frustrating, and feels invasive in a sense. But it is probably just the adaption of it all

Sorry but What's Octob?

Very weird you go to your rents every day. But then who can really class what weird is?! (Although that would be to me!!!)

I don't know what he's doing to drive you mad but would suggest that scuttling off to your parents' house is not the way grown-ups resolve a disagreement. If there's a problem, deal with it face to face and find a solution as a team. If it was a mistake to move in together, admit it and go back to living separately.

In what way has he driven you mad?

When DP moved in it was great...for about two weeks. I was a single mum before that, and very used to having my own space. Getting used to it was tough, and some things he does still drive me mad like leaving beard all over the bathroom sink but we're getting married at the end of this month. We just had to adjust to sharing our space.

Talk to him. He might not realise he's done anything to upset you. What did he do?

DH still drives me round the bloody bend now. It's a big change for both of you - give it a little bit of time to settle before you worry too much.

Oh its normal. I had been with my partner, now DH, for a loooong time before we bought a house and moved in together. He had never been independant - living with parents - and really struggled with the transition. I also struggled but more because actually not much had changed other than him livibg there too - previously living independantly and paying for and doing everything myself.

He used to go to his parents all day at least one day of every weekend. It was like having a child. He had no idea and everything was a big deal to him whereas i just expected him to get on with it. The first year nearly broke us. It was awful tbh.

Saying that - we aren't the best communicators so that didn't help.

These days theres a lot i let go but every little thing that he did 'wrong' used to really wind me up!! You have to come to realise that some things aren't wrong, just different to how you do it.

Erm yep, I love dp being here, but driving me mad? Oh yes, most definitely. Echoing earlier posters, give it time; the early days are notoriously slightly tricky at best and bloody difficult at worst. But I would confidently say yes, what you are feeling is normal. And it's always the little things!!

I would try not to run to my parents too often if it were me as this can turn into a habit and kind of avoidant behaviour. But I can see the appeal that said!
All in all, I've just tried to chill the hell out and keep thinking about the positives good luck.

I lived alone for quite a while and didn't live with DH until after we got married.
If we had lived together first I'm not at all sure we would have got married
sharing a space with someone can be really hard even when you love them. Mine still believes in the dirty sock fairy too but I leave them on the floor and they get to the basket eventually when he realises they are running out.

set out your stall now.

Don't be his mother.

It does depend on what is annoying/upsetting you so much. (I have never lived with a partner so not an expert on 'everyday niggles'). Has his behaviour towards you changed since moving in? Is he treating you with less kindness and respect, ie expecting you to do more of the domestic work and/or not see your friends without him? Sometimes an abusive man starts to show his true colours when he moves in with a partner.

Living with someone is waaaay different to being friends with them and living separately. That is when all the niggles become clear and problems can set in. Is he expecting you to be chief cook, bottle-washer and cleaner on top of going out to work etc.? Expecting you to wait on him?

You need to give more information. Are you having doubts about the relationship now?

what is he doing?

During this time it has been amazing but so he's driven mad on Octob. (over nothing in particular!)

I don't know what this means. Is it a typo?

LTB...