Why am I even surprised that he's a lying bastard?!

[Cabrinha]

So, I'm divorcing STBXH for sleeping with prostitutes our entire marriage.
Ho hum.
I'm being quite favourable towards him financially. I don't want to say how as it's identifying, but basically if I were the "take him to the cleaners" type, I would get more than I proposed. FFS I even proposed we share the legal costs from joint savings! (which were an equal contribution)

So, I'm due 50% of an insurance policy in his name. It paid out 2 months ago and he has finally sent the statement to my solicitor. I knew he'd lied about the amount.

What I didn't know, is he'd actually doctor the bloody document before sending it to my solicitor!!!

To put it in context, I haven't proposed child maintenance. There are good reasons why, I'm happy with my decision. The amount he's trying to steal from me is equal to only 6 months CSA calculated maintenance. I'm no golddigga!!!

I'm not so surprised by the lies. But the poor quality forgery has me open mouthed!

And no - no regrets divorcing him!!!

how did you find out about the prostitutes?

i'd take him for all he is worth

he disrespected you and put you at risk of diseases

I think you should just rise above it. Hes a horrible seedy man, who doesnt deserve your time and effort.
If you are happy and comfortae finacially. Then this will only drag you down further.

What an awful person he must be.
Well done for sending him on his way!

He did indeed. I found out through suspicious looking internet searches, and some other stuff I don't want to go into as it's identifying. But same old same old really - internet and phone. The same things that possibly make it easier to arrange make it easier to find out.

Taking him for all he's worth - tempting. But we have a child and I chose the path of staying as amicable as possible. My settlement is "fair" in my eyes. But less than I could get. But I don't want our child caught up in what would then become protracted, argued and bitter.

Which just adds insult to injury really. That I'll "give up" that and he'd try to screw me over for the amount of a family holiday. Arsehole!!

The thing is, stupid people often assume everyone else is even more stupid, so they believe they can get away with stupid behaviour.

yeah he blew it

sounds like he was thinking with the wrong part of his body

so fraud is a criminal offence....that was careless of him!

That's interesting, about rising above it. Tbh, I've done just that over a couple of other finance things.
I don't want to on this though. It's partly emotional - all the times he told me he only looked at escort sites, never went through with it... including in counselling. The minimising, treating me like I was stupid, a mug. Emotionally, I will not be treated like I'm thick over this. I'm not. Even if I say "keep your money, you seedy man" I will say "but know that I know you for the lying shit that you are".
I really didn't think that he'd doctor a document going to a solicitor!

It's laughable. He's over written the amount in a letter from a bank. But banks all have their own branding, own fonts. So his patch (and you can see the outline of the paper!) is in the wrong fucking font!

wow, what a guy

Keep rising above it by all means, but I could not resit mentioning the letter "doctoring" in the next correspondence.

Hope it's all done & dusted asap OP

get yourself a new better man

that would be the best way to get back at him

Already have!! ;)

You are obviously a better person than me OP, because I certainly wouldn't let him get away with his clumsy forgery.

What a knob!

Why not write and say the letter was clearly fraudulently doctored and request original letter, or a certified copy of the original.

I wouldn't want him to think he got away with it (he'd probably think he was brilliant to get one over "stupid" ex).

What BeCool said.
What a total shit.

Has the solicitor not noticed that it's a forgery? What do they say about it?

Oh I have no plans to let him get away with it. To be honest, I don't think that being a mug would make me a better person ;)
I'm just deciding my plan of attack.
I'm actually pretty disappointed in my solicitor. I told her I wanted a copy as I had reason to believe he might lie. She sent me the copy when it arrived with her, covering letter on a few things. No mention that it was obviously doctored. And not even a "given your concerns, is this OK?".
Cross about that.

Sounds like you might need a new solicitor. I'm glad you're not going to let him get away with the fraud.

Blimey so you don't think your solicitor spotted it? That's cause for concern. Just as well you are on the ball

Get a new solicitor.

I would advise that you employ a new solicitor and regardless of your acceptance of less of a financial settlement than you are entitled to, definitely request the original letter that is not fraudulently doctored.

I would also remind you that although you are happy to accept a lesser financial settlement now, things may not always be the same and can be both long winded and costly to change once agreed.