My life seems to be falling apart at the moment. Please give me some advice.
My dh/dp of 17 years and I have always had mismatched sex drives. He has been very difficult to deal with lately and he says it is all my doing because he hasn't had enough sex for at least the last 10 years. This is not the first time he has complained and I have always tried to accommodate him but it is never good enough.
We run our own business together and he has also been making things difficult for me there as well. He doesn't like me going in and seeing the staff anymore. He complained that I was making too many mistakes (I wasn't - especially compared to him) and took a lot of my responsibilities away. He said I kept forgetting things and saying I had Alzheimer's.
In the last 6 months we have expanded the business and I have been working very hard. Whilst I was working in one of the shops last week he took our DD to a play date and vented at my friend in front of DD that he had had enough of me, that he wasn't going to let me drag him down to my level, that I don't look after my appearance, that I don't wear make-up and that I should try and dress more appealingly. Some of this may be true, but working flat out for the last 6 months or more has taken it out of me.
My FIL of nearly 90 also lives with us for most of the week and I have to cook, clean and look after him and our 2 dc's as well as everything else.
I am at my wits end. What do I do? Nothing I do is right. I even don't feed the dc's the right food according to him. He's on a diet so he can 'look after his figure' and always turns his nose up at whatever I offer him.
I feel like I have lost my whole identity. I have lost dh, my job and any last bits of confidence that I had. I feel that for my own self-respect I should walk away but I feel so scared.