relationship over but how to cope with new 'disclosures'

[holstenlips]

So relationship wel an truly over due to sexting etc.
Now some other woman known to me has come forward to say my fiance was messaging her filthy messages phone sex pics the works.
This is supposed to make me feel better.
I feel worse. Nightmares because it was at times over a 2 year period when we were HAPPY. And I dont know if they actually met and performed said acts she says not but I cant tell.
Seriously porno type messages. It really fucking hurts. Even after I knew he was a big fat cheat and liar.
Is it just time that heals?

What did this woman hope to achieve by telling you this? Did she tell you in a remorseful way?

I'm sorry, I haven't got advice for you but I just think it was so wrong of her to tell you. I hope you told her where to stick her information!

I'd also worry about this person's motives in telling you that they'd received 'porno-type messages'. Who would admit that, even if it were true? Sounds like shit-stirring. Suggest if anyone else volunteers to tell you about your ex, you tell them to keep it to themselves. Time does heal but rather than turning this knowledge inwards and feeling hurt, turn it outwards where it belongs i.e. be angry with the messenger and your ex.

She is a shit stirring cow, and it wouldn't surprise me if he put her up to it just to try and see you wobble.

Just another nail the coffin for him and another reason to be glad you are shot of the loser.

Other than this, hows work?

Don't care if it isn't MNetty im going to give you a ((hug))

Thank you. .sorry I posted this while v upset . I think she was basically shit stirring. We have never got on that well and I think she is the know it all type.
Just wish I didnt have some of the images in my head.
Work is ok. I have cut my hours so I am not there so much which suits me.
I do hate him right now and I feel totally like the relationship was with another person not him. I do not know him nor feel anything for him, except disgust really. Thanks for the hug.

They are both sad little individuals with nowt better to do that cause trouble, pathetic. If she ever says anything again, laugh in her face and tell her she won't be the 1st and certainly isn't the the last and walk strut away with your head held high.

Im really pleased you managed to get hours that suit you better, that's great news.