Is it over?

[cluelessmother]

My partner and I have now been together for 3 years and have a 1yr old son. Safe to say i got pregnant very quickly.
At the time it seemed like a good idea but as soon as reality struck me i got scared.
He wasnt working, had no intention to work, both still at parents home.

He eventually got a job and did everything he could to provide for our child but in the meantime i built up a resentment.

I dont remember the last time we had sex and if im honest 90% of the time i couldnt careless, we still dont live together and i dont miss him. We argue often over the littlest things.

I'd like to go to relationship counselling because obviously there was a time when things were good and surely i can get back to that?

Oh i dont know...think i just came to rant. I havent told this to anyone.

Have you spoken to him about how he feels?

You can't get back to the way things were, you can never go backwards IMO.

But you can get to be able to build something good and more worthwhile and better than what you had, if you go to relationship counselling.

If it turns out that there wasn't enough there to build a future relationship with, relationship counselling can help you end it well, so that you can be co-operative, functional co-parents to your DS in the future. It can enable you to be friends afterwards, rather than hostile to each other.

It's over,you just need to tidy things up and move on.

Agree with Basil. Its a very good idea to at least give relationship counselling a try

He's not really a partner is he? If you don't like/respect him very much, don't have sex and don't live together then you're just two people who happen to have a baby together. The 'time when things were good' was probably very, very short and the whole thing has simply run its course.