What would you think of this?

[ShitCreek]

I am seeing a guy.....been seeing him for about a month now. All is going well. We are taking things slowly as I havent been in a relationship for quite a while.
I was at his place earlier in his room....he lives in a shared house so we hang out there rather than the living room with all his housemates. I noticed a glass left on the side with lip stick marks all over the rim.....innocent enough but its enough to send my brain into over drive.

I have been cheated on before so am a little weary. He had a party at his place at the weekend and Im wondering if it could have been from then.....it was fancy dress so I guess he could have been wearing face paint or it could have been as innocent as one of his house mates in his room chatting to him.

I dont want to ask and seem like a nutter as we have only just got together but at the same time I dont want to be taken for a fool if there is more to it.

Or it could be that he is crap at washing up? Good lipstick has to be removed properly from glasses.

it was a plastic cup the type you would throw away which is what made me think of the party.

If you're worried about something you have to ask. I'm sure you're intelligent enough to do so without looking like a nutter.... make a joke of it perhaps? 'You must tell me where you get your lipstick' or whatever.

I second the asking him. if you don't, you'll be thinking all sorts of things and it'll play on your mind.

Thanks.....I didn't know if I was being rediculously paranoid. It just seemed very odd to me. He is terrible at tidying his room so hopefuly it will be there when I go over next.
Thanks for the advice. Im finding it quite hard being in a relationship again. He is a really nice guy and I enjoy spending time with him. Its just a huge adjustment having someone like that in your life when you are used to being on your own.

Were you at the party?

It could be innocent, but I would probably be thinking the same as you.

No, we hadn't been together that long and both agreed it was too soon to do the whole meet my friends thing.

At least im not the only one who thinks it could be something. I will bring it up when I see him next. I want to gauge his reaction face to face.

No, we hadn't been together that long and both agreed it was too soon to do the whole meet my friends thing.

I'd suggest that now would be a good time to start doing the whole meet my friends thing.

Your last statement worries me though. Why would a month into a relationship be too soon to meet friends?

Is it that you are only having a casual relationship?

no.....it was more me. I just get anxious about meeting new people and chickened out. He was really nice about it and I think was just trying to be supportive. He gave me the option to go.