Hello Ladies,
I would like your perspectives please. I have been in a relationship with a man for the last ten months but have known him for ten years. I have always known he had problems with alcohol but has now given up drinking and is attending AA. I also knew he he had a history of drug use but it seems this was much more extensive than he lead me to believe.
I have recently discovered (via reading a post on 420chan) that he has a history of visiting prostitutes, mostly for the purpose of them whipping him, and that he is into S&M. I am not into this at all and was shocked by the post, especially as he describes me in it, using the phrase 'enormous ass'. I confronted him about it and he says he hasn't done that for at least two years and he is trying to clean up his act. He says his past is none of my business and it shouldn't make any difference to our relationship. I feel he hasn't been totally open with me and that sexual fetishes and things like taking drugs and regularly visiting prostitutes for whipping sessions aren't exactly 'standard' behavior, and he should have told me about this before now, especially as the post was dated less than a month ago (so it is obviously important to him). Do you think I am being unreasonable to expect him to have come clean about this before now and then only when tackled about it?