Is it worth working at????

[kellye21]

The way im thinking lately is all over the place, I have a beautiful baby girl which is 8 months and have been living with my boyfriend since I was 16weeks pregnant, and things haven't been a smooth ride at all. We have just moved into a new home closer to my family and they still aren't giving any support to me, im not sure if its because they don't get along with my boyfriend or if they feel I need to stand on my own two feet. I went for a quiet drink with a friend last week, and ended up coming home to a angry boyfriend because he didn't want me out which resulted in us having a physical fight and im so so worried that social services will now be involved. We have spoke about what has happened and my boyfriend admitted he was in the wrong and hes so sorry and wants help! I want this to work not just for our sake but my daughters but im feeling so down about so many things not just my relationship! :(
Is my relationship fixable? and is there anyone I could speak to about everything im feeling down about?

If a 'physical fight' means he was violent then no, it's not fixable. 'Sorry' doesn't cut it. Stick around with a violent man and SS will be far more concerned than if you get yourself and your DD away from him and safe. Please get in touch with your family. If they don't like this boyfriend, they'd have good reason.

If you want to talk to someone about this then Womens Aid 0808 2000 247 are very good at offering reassurance and practical advice.

Can you speak to your family? It sounds like they have good reason not to like your boyfriend :(

I just feel it wont happen again by the way he wants us to speak to someone to help us, he wants one on one help from the doctor for his anger.
This is the first time he ever acted like that, im feeling very selfish the way im acting because I want to be in a relationship with him but everyone keeps telling me I shouldn't be with him because what he done.
Ive tried speaking to my family and they keep telling me what to do rather than listening to how im feeling and what I really want to do

Domestic violence often begins with the arrival of a child. You become vulnerable in his eyes. He thinks he 'owns' you now and is entitled to treat you any way he sees fit. He thinks you won't have the guts to leave and take a child from its father. So, he's sorry today and he's going to the doctor and he's going to get help.... But the next time you go out for a quiet drink you'll feel ever so slightly nervous when you put your key in the door. Or you won't bother going for that drink because you don't want to upset him. And that's how it starts.

Your family love you. This man - whatever he says - doesn't. He hits you instead. Choose wisely.

They are telling you this because they know that once you let him off it once, he is likely to do it again. Don't let yourself become a victim of domestic violence, get out whilst you still can.