first night alone

[killpeppa]

I feel so alone, tonight is the first night that me and exH have been separated (officially, we were in the same house)

dread is setting in.
am I going to be lonely forever?
positive killpeppa has gone and has been taken over by a scared one.

I'm sorry I don't know the back story but wanted you to know that someone was here

Make yourself a nest in your bed, lamp on hot water bottle tv on and MN or a book xx

I feel for you. It's been 9 weeks since my H left. I have to make sure the telly is on, even though I rarely watch it but it's just so I have some noise in the house.

Being on MN helps too. Do you have DCs?

Is there something you can do that you enjoy, which he used to moan about? Listen to music, watch a DVD, eat a certain type of food?

This is the first night of the rest of your life as FreePeppa. It will feel odd and scary, but old habits and all that...

Focus on positives if you can and plan some nice things for eves and weekends. Even if it's just having a friend pop in or making time to see a film, do some exercise or try new recipes.

Wishing you well.

muffcakes can you see me??? Bed, hot water bottle, lamp on , MN... Spooky.

I'm sorry killpeppa it's your first night. But I will get better. Promise. Get some sleep if you can, it's supposed to be sunny tomorrow x

Redundant snap that is scary

First night is awful... I felt completely bewildered.

For the first few weeks I had a radio on all the time - for company. Now much less often. It doesn't feel lonely any more, even when I am completely alone in a big, silent house.

'Alone' is a physical reality. 'Lonely' is a state of mind. From what you described of your relationship, you sounded very lonely in that set-up. Like mayopoledancer I combated the silence by having radios on in every room.... still do :)

I hope you managed to get through the night ok and got some sleep. It does get easier! I used to have every light in the house on...now I'm back to needing every light off. If I forget to turn a light off downstairs I can't sleep. Just get yourself new little routines etc and you soon get used to it. Yes yes, to making yourself a little nest in your room...sometimes I'm in my 'nest' at 8.30pm...with mo one to disturb me- lovely :)

thanks everyone, was lovely to wake up to these messages.
I have decided to take up a hobby that way I can be busy instead of just slobbing in front of the tv alone with a packet of chocolate digestives.

so I'm away to buy some wool and a crochet hook- YouTube shall be my friend.

Don't know the backstory but if you have DCs you are probably able to put on a brave face for them in the daytime. It is all right to let yourself relax when they are off to bed, mother yourself. As the nights draw in close the curtains, get cosy. There's usually someone up on MN in the wee small hours, radio is a great help, if you don't have money for a baby sitter then a friend could just come over for a chat of an evening.

If you are single then all of the above and maybe evening classes?

Take a look in the Fun and Games section at the Christmas and Arts + Crafts sections if you're looking for craft ideas.

Well done killpeppa, you got thru night 1 and WILL get easier! Two years on and I love having my bed to myself. I've put new bedding on, some lovely new pics on the wall, candles in the bedroom - basically made it my sanctuary from all the chaos. I relish how quiet and clean it is. And if I can't sleep I can always put the telly on in the middle of the night without fear of waking someone else.

Well done on making it through the first night!!

Sometimes everything just seems too quiet now I am living alone, I have put on an audiobook in my bedroom when going to sleep every so often. Sometimes it helps to just have some background noise.