It's one of those shit days

[Lonecatwithkitten]

I am a Lone Parent as a result of Kicking ExH out last year after he pretended to want to fix things after his affair last year and then admitted in a relate session he was still seeing OW. He claimed he had no plans to be with OW.
He said he would arrange and pay for the divorce, I signed the papers in August 2012 by January 2013 he'd done nothing with them so got a solicitor and issued my own petition. Due to his crapness in replying we have to as far as a nici.
I found out last night he is marrying OW, this in itself just shows me what a lying toad he is, but doesn't upset me. What has given me the rage is that he was so rubbish about arranging the divorce so I am now paying for it to benefit him.
So I have considered not applying for the absolute just to make his life difficult, but in truth that is just not me and anyway I just want the divorce finalised.

Sorry you are having a shit day. :(

I became a lone parent a while back, there are fewer shit days than there were but still the odd one (and it's usually a Sunday), so I know how it feels.

In your shoes I would not waste energy trying to spite him. Let the OW have him and welcome to him. If you want the divorce finalised focus on that and moving on. :)

This time next year you might have a shiny new man (if you want one), or you might be single and just having fewer 'shit days'. Either way, you will have moved on from this loser which will be A Good Thing.

I know the feeling. I postponed signing off on my divorce papers for a few months because I heard OW was expecting his baby and I knew it would really upset him if they couldn't be married beforehand. (He had major hang-ups about illegitimacy) But I was being petty, I doubt it even registered with him, and it's not something I remember with any pride.

Suggest you maintain your dignity, apply for the absolute and then send him the bill. Might mean they can't afford quite so many vol-au-vents :) Good luck