Hello - after about 2 years of struggling on, and a few horrid rows where DH says very hurtful things, my husband told me last night (after a few drinks) that he wants out. We have dd who is 3 and ds who is 1. I want to make things work and for us all to be happy so have suggested going to relate. we have had sex twice in 2 years, which isn't normal at all:( I'm pretty sure there is no one else. He is just so busy with his work, diy etc and we never have anytime for eachother. when we do, we don't have anything to say and he has told me i'm boring and have nothing to say. he always seems so pissed off with me and really nit picks all the time. We had a baby in between the 2, but he had problems and was delivered at 20 weeks - I kind of knew what the baby would look like, but i think the shock really hit oh really badly. If we didnt have the children, we would go our separate ways, but i so want to make it work for them. We are also in debt, and I can't see how we could seperate, we would have to sell the house etc. I feel so lonely and sad about it all. He has happily agreed to go to relate - does it work? any help really appreciated