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[kelly21]

just wondering if anyone has ever started a relationship while pregnant this has recently become an option well sort of i am in no fit state to start another relationship so soon after a really bad split another thing i am thinking why would somebody want to get with someone when there 30 weeks pregnant :s

Hi kelly there really is no rule book on this other than taking things at a pace that you are comfortable with. How well do you know this person? How are your emotions in general? Just be alert to post birth feelings (when it happens) and do what is right for you.

If it was someone that I had a close friendship with and that person had a good understanding of how things have been and is supportive then I would see the move forward as a couple very positive. As to your question as to why someone would want to start a relationship with a pregnant woman.....well you could just ask that person?

I recommend you read Heartburn by Nora Ephron, she is left by her husband when pregnant and one of the first things she says to herself is "but I can't date".

But I think in general, pregnancy aside, planning to start a new relationship this soon after a bad split is a bad idea. You need time to heal and work on yourself a bit. You have to plan for being a single mother and looking after your new family, not rushing around trying to find a substitute father.

If you want male company I would stick to dating, but you will a) probably have no energy for it post-birth, and b) have to accept that a lot of men will not be eager to date a pregnant woman. I think actively trying to find a boyfriend at this time will set you on track for a lot of heartache, so again, better to work on yourself and your baby's needs.

we were pretty close at one point we lived together as friends when i met my partner and got pregnant i moved out he moved and we lost contact havent spoke to him in nearly 3 years he got in contact when he found out i had ended up having to call the police on my current partner and we have been talking since hes being nice knows its all still raw about my ex and my emotions are all over the place he said we can just carry on being friends an he will keep me company in the evenings as i have never lived on my own before because i am seriously not ready for a relationshup

Ahh, I mis-understood your previous post. I would relax and enjoy the support. Friendship sounds like a better option for you. I would keep half an eye out for red flags as some men like to rescue women and I'm not convinced rescuers are always benign.