What do you mean by hammers blonde? I feel a bit dim asking but not sure.
Your mil sounds vile. So many things really. Says her son was better before me, leaves voicemails on my phone swearing at me, tells me I wont let her see her granddaughter (that's not the case, but we don't drive so not the easiest to get up to theirs and really can't be arsed to go there when she's so vile anyway). She didn't come to see me or my daughter when we were in hospital with pre eclampsia/weight gain issues. She tells me I don't love her son and am using him and also tells me I wont live with him so I should just let him go and just let him see his daughter.
Whenever my fiancé doesn't agree with her she blames me and says I made him say it. She also is annoyed he wont move nearer to hers which he doesn't want himself, but she says I'm forcing him not to. I haven't even married him yet and she's being vile.
future FIL isn't quite as bad in obvious ways but he has been threatening as in when I told him his behaviour was threatening 'This isn't threatening I'll show you threatening' and things like that. He's just aggressive aggressive, he doesn't even bother with the passivity.
I get on fine with his other relatives though, although they are a lot different than my own but have gone out for meals/drinks etc with the and have a laugh/message them on Facebook. His Mum is currently not speaking to him and it's bloody peace and quiet from her.
My parents try and compensate and go to events that his parents would/should go to, as they feel he's missing out. Luckily he gets on great with my parents, although he does find that they are very over protective of our daughter but if that's the worst trait they can hold, we are lucky.
Aha just saw you miswrote that word. Can't be asked to go up to the top of the post and change it though. :) Yeah wouldn't surprise me, there are some pretty vile MILs and FILs and even SIL and BILs out there.
Spooky She sounds like Mrs Brown in real life, just without the funny side.
Aww that's so sad children there are some amazing mother in laws out there too and it's a shame when they are no longer with us. My Dad used to get on great with my Mum's Dad and he died when I was 2, such a shame as he was the nicest chap you'd ever meet and nearly anyone who has met him would say the exact same thing.