I'll try to keep this brief. There's a HUGE amount of stuff that I could go into but I'll try to keep this relevant. Starting at the beginning seems wise ...
I have 2 sisters. One is 2 years younger than me and WE DO NOT GET ON. The other is 5.5 years younger and we do get on but it's complicated. My parents divorced when 1 was 10. Only really saw dad during school holidays etc. as mother moved to be nearer her family after the divorce. Dad remarried (SM is lovely) and mother didn't. No boyfriends (or friend even).
My younger sister was always "different". It started from a young age - she saw a physchiatrist/psychologist (not sure which) when she was three as she had destroyed the inside of two cars by shredding the upholstery. Things got progressively worse and almost lost dad his job (he was a policeman) as she said that he had hit her. He hadn't and wouldn't but there's was a huge investigation after she went into school with a "black eye" (make up).
When parents divorced, I had a year of primary school left to go and then started secondary school. Everything was fine there until my sister started at the same school 2 years later. She was expelled by the January of year 7 for various things, mainly violence related. She then started at another school but was expelled at the end of year 9. Again violence related.
However, as mother was a single parent, she needed to work and left me (from the age of 10 onwards) to look after both sisters. Youngest was 4/5 years old. Younger sister was horrific. It is honestly no exaggeration to say that she tried to kill me on many occasions - attacking me with knives, sledgehammers, aerosols etc. I spent most of the time protecting my youngest sister whilt trying to stop younger sister destroying the house. I never got any support from mother, other family members or neighbours. It was all kept very quiet. I used to have to miss a lot of school due to injuries inflicted and major depression.
There was a huge amount of emotional abuse from younger sister too but it was harder to prove and put my finger on. Mother thought it was laughable.
Anyway, when younger sister was expelled from second school dad insisted she live with him as there were 2 parents by then and she'd get more attention etc. She was expelled from her third school at the end of year 11 with few GCSEs etc. Around the same time, she got involved with groups in london involved with drugs and eventually had a court case for GBH with intent but was acquitted (they sentenced someone else and couldn't come to a decision so didn't want to waste money on a second trial). She then went into the Navy as a dental nurse but was chuck out for punching her (female) superior officer. She then had another court ca for GBH and was sentenced. Not sure now long for.
All through this I worked hard and tried not to rock the boat. Whilst I was at uni though, I was raped. The only comment mother made at the time was "you're lucky he didn't strangle you afterwards". She then made it very obvious it s inconvenient for her to keep taking me to the airport when the trial was supposed to start (I didn't drive and train fares were expensive - I was working so paid for flights and her petrol).
However. When middle sister left prison dad wasn't well enough to take her (he'd had a huge heart attack) and so she had to live with mother whilst she was on bail. I had long since moved out so didn't have to see her.
Mother paid her bills and food etc. and found her a job. When I was living at home on compassionate leave she charged me rent and organised for my wages to go straight into her account (same initial and surname) so I had NOTHING to live on.
Nowadays, I have nothing to do with either of them. I missed mother's 60th birthday last year as I knew middle sister would be there (she didn't tell me she was but she was very evasive) but there is a funeral next week that I really should go to, but not if my younger sister is there. Mother is lying to people about being in contact with me (apparently she knows my bump is huge (32 weeks pregnant) but I haven't seen her since I sent her an e-mail 18 months ago telling her never to call me again.
Really don't know what to do. I honestly can't cope with seeing either mother or middle sister.
What would you do?