My BIL is the eldest of 5 boys & 1 girl. He & his wife think & have said that they are the most important/powerful couple in the family. They are 18 years older than my DH & myself. From the beginning they have disliked me, (In fact they dislike almost everyone, but especially me) even though I am quite quiet I made an effort to get along with all the family & I do.
SIL has on more than one ocassion over the years be very rude to me at social ocassions where I can't (and wouldn't) say anything back. For example she has said that I was not good enough to marry into the family, that I am stupid & that I have no chance of ever fitting into the family. Then both her & BIL say I have a mental health issue as I don't agree with what they say/behave how they do. Now they don't speak to me at all because Of the above. I have not told anyone about this other than DH as I didn't think anyone would believe me as they always seemed the favourites. Plus I didn't want to upset my DHs parents as they are lovely & have enough to worry about.
My BIL is also my DHs boss at a large firm. Making things even trickier. At work my BIL speaks to my DH like he is dirt & frequently humiliates him infront of others. This is always passed over as "office humour", he puts him down constantly both in & out if work. DH stupidly puts up with this for a number of reasons.
Over the summer my FIL took very ill & I looked after him & my MIL. Most of the rest of the siblings live to far away to help out so it's just us & the above couple. For three weeks BIL & his wife didn't call/visit/txt. This caused a huge argument between my MIL & her oldest son & a few other family members. We were not involved at all. I got my eyes opened here and realised that maybe people didn't think so highly of them after all.
Fast forward to now & I am selling my car & I can no longer pick their kids up from school anymore, I was doing it to save PIL doing it now that they are too ill. I txted SIL to say that after the holidays they would need to find alternative pick ups as it was no longer suitable. Didn't get a reply. BIL tells my husband at work today that I wouldn't need to see SIL anytime soon as she is going to kick my head in! Yes she actually said that! Because I think am more important than them now & they have no alternative provisions.
To be honest All this has really dented my confidence over the years & have been in tears all day. My DH is furious but we are at a loss as to what action we should take. These people cannot be reasoned with but I know that she wouldn't actually be violent. However both of them would attack me verbally in a furious manner.