I don't know what to do

[passmetheprozac]

I will try and explain everything, whilst keeping it brief.

I had been with my partner for 4.5 years. We had our ups and downs, the biggest down was losing our house (renting) and then having to move in with my parents as we didn't have the money for a new deposit.

This did test us, and ultimately led to him moving back with his parents.

Physically he is not well, he has back troubles and is in constant pain.

We still spoke everyday and saw each other regularly. Two and a half months ago we had made plans to meet up. However he did not show, nothing unusual there because of his health. It was an unusual dynamic we had but it worked for us.

Two and a half months later, no word from him. I wasn't welcome at his parents house they did not like me.

I am a mess. I am worried sick, I am crying. I am confused.

I have e-mailed, phoned, text, written. Been to the house.

I don't know what to do anymore. He is alive that much I know.

So sorry but after 2.5 months of no contact, I think he has ended the relationship and for your own sanity you need to stop contacting him.

If this happened to me, confusing and painful as it is, I would presume I'd been dumped.

I have not contacted in two months.

I know it's over, I am just struggling today.

He's made it clear that a) your relationship has ended, b) he's an absolute coward for not telling you, c) he's cruel to not tell you and let you hope it was still going on, d) he's disrespectful just not turning up - yes, he has a health problem but unless that affects him sending a brief message, then it's rude and entitled to just not turn up.

I hope you meet someone lovely; this man wasn't.

Two and a half months ago we had made plans to meet up. However he did not show, nothing unusual there because of his health. It was an unusual dynamic we had but it worked for us.

Did it work for both of you or just for him and you went along with it? However much pain he was in he wasn't treating you with much respect to do that. How he has behaved now just confirms that.

I'm really sorry, but I agree with the others, he's ended it.

I hope your parents and friends can support you whilst you come to terms with what he's done and that you start to realise that you deserve to be with someone who would never dream of behaving the way this excuse for a man has.

Thank you all, I am felling a little better today. I was just a little low last night.

I know it's over. And I know that it is for the best. Onward and upward and all that.

I suppose I got so used to things not being quite right that it became the norm.

Here is to better things ahead

Oh wow, what an arsehole.

I hope, in time, you meet someone who will treat you much better than that!