Bored witless in a 34 year marriage

[gerryt]

At the age of 57 i feel good and look good but the spice has gone from my marriage. Doesn't matter what i do to sex it up he ain't interested. I feel trapped and low. Am i the only one?

Why don't you just leave then? Assume your kids (if any) are grown up. Life is too short when one party in a relationship can't be arsed.

You may have 30 years left yet....spend em being bored or spend em doing exciting new things with possibly exciting new people.

You can't change other people, only your own behaviour.

Don't be afraid to do it. It's quite liberating.

gerryt I'm a similar age to you. Thought I was in a 'forever' relationship but it turned out I wasn't.

Its okay on the outside, really it is. Plan your exit wisely so you get the best financial deal for yourself, then move on - that would be my advice.

Are you literally talking about sex or something more general like enthusiasm, intimacy, conversation, affection?...