It was a man this time & he seemed quite good. He had been in the job for 30 years.
He asked all my details & then asked a little about why we were thinking of divorce.
I told him a little about H's temper & control problems & how I have tried everything to save our marriage, but nothing seems to change him for long & I cannot take much more. I also mentioned him leaving our DS's in the house to come spying on me.
He said that it sounds like I would have good reasons to divorce him for unreasonable behaviour & that this alongside adultry, are treated different to other cases & normally result in a far quicker divorce.
I explained the house situation & how H has told me that I will not have enough money to buy a property, so will have to rent.
He said "Oh & I wonder why he is telling you this?!"
He told me that he was very wrong there & that first consideration always goes to any minors up until the age of 18. He said that pushing me into rental is not on, as there is no security with renting & it is NOT in the best interest of the children.
He also said that I would stand more chance of benefits if I was not renting.
He said that if I cannot stay in the house, I would be advised to sell it & buy something with the equity. (I have come away a little unsure as to how I would do this, as I only work 20 hours a week & am not on fantastic money)
He did say that normally the wife would get more than 50% & it was quite likely in our case, as H earns so much more than me & I have the children to take care of.
I told him about H being a nightmare to get out of the house & he said best to keep it sweet for the moment.
Will post more later...have someone at the door!