I posted at the beginning of the year about my EA H that I had put up with for the past 30 plus years and how I just could not take any more emotional and financial abuse and threat of physical abuse. I just wanted to report that I have finally made it out and am now living in my own home with my DS and feeling very relieved, happy, ecstatic really. I won't lie it was hugely stressful, scary, terrifying at times but with the support of family, friends, wise people here I somehow found the strength to keep going with my plan particularly through the very stressful sale of the family home and dealing with the H who has for years intimated and scared me so much. I can't explain just how much calmer life is now that we are no longer living together as a (dysfunctional) family. I did try to not let my family and friends see me at the times when I was really upset and worried and overwhelmed about how it all would pan out as I didn't want to upset them. At those times I came on here and asked for help and it was ALWAYS there and it was so very helpful to help me to be strong. I will be very grateful always. To anyone else going through it, if you know in your heart that you are unhappy be strong and forge ahead. Don't give up. It will be worth it. One life and all that.