why i it affecting me :(

[kelly21]

i havent seen my ex in 4 weeks he walked out on me he has caused me so much trouble caused my depression and anxiety to spiral out of my control just had a facebook nessage off someone saying tgey cant get hold of him abd could i let him no his mums dying ( he dosent have a relationship with her) but why am i sitting here crying because if knowone can get hold of him it means he could be staying with his ex :( why is this hurting me so much after everything hes done just want to go one day without crying and just enjoy the rest of my pregnancy

You are still mourning the loss of the relationship and the little family you thought you were going to have. Not surprised you are so upset, it would be very strange if you weren't!!!

Did you post before? I think I remember you?

So sorry. Of course you're still upset...4 weeks is such early days still. Allow yourself to cry- it's good to let it out. Have you got good rl support?

Try to focus on you, your bump and pregnancy. You'll never get this pregnancy again- you deserve to enjoy it. He's not worth missing out on enjoying it for. It's so so hard, but try to focus on yourself. Be kind to yourself. Are you eating ok? Sleeping enough etc?

Hugs x

yes i have posted before all i am doing is eating lol am going to be huge :( it just hurts thinkibg hes there with her 3 children and he cant support me whem am carrying his just fed up luckily i have family support but feel like i am boring them with my problems and i should just get over

Four weeks is far too short to 'just get over' anything this traumatic. Yes, it's upsetting that you think he's already with someone new and yes he's a shit for leaving you carrying his baby, but there's not a lot you can do about it. Please call on your family for support. I'm sure they are not finding you boring and do not expect you to get over it. To stop thinking about him so much and enjoy your pregnancy you'll need to distract yourself, be with good company and find other things to do. They will want to help you.

In reply to the FB message simply say that you are not in contact. FWIW a man that doesn't care about his own mother was never good enough. Good luck

He does have to be staying with his ex does he?

doesnt not does

am not to sure were he is i suspect hes there just wish i could forget about him i think i would feel better if i knew he would stay away but i am always on edge waiting for him to get intouch and mess with my head again like hes done 100 times before

Is his previous ex his wife?

Don't let him mess with your head. Tell yourself he's out if the picture now- concentrate on you. I'm sure you're family don't think you're boring. Lean on people- it's what they're there for.

I know it's cliche but go for a walk...clears the cobwebs from the brain and makes some room for some more calories :)

no hes never been married thankyou everyone i am trying not to stress and keep myself busy and forget about him

Well done. It's really all you can do until you get through the worst of it. Make the most of the good days, look after yourself on the bad days... Sucks, but there aren't any short-cuts to feeling better.