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Original poster

I don't care if I never ever see you again in my life

17 replies

Pinkpinot · 30/10/2013 23:22

There is nothing I like about you
I wish I had never met you
Our ds deserves so much more
You are a c**t of the highest order
Sociopath, bpd, narcissistic, whatever
I have given up trying to work it out
You are the most selfish obnoxious vile person I have ever met
And YOU are leaving

OP posts:
CogitoEerilySpooky · 31/10/2013 07:22

Sounds pretty emphatic. :) Have you said this to him out loud? Is he leaving?

Giveatossagain · 31/10/2013 08:56

Chanel the anger into being the force to get out of the relationship and get free from him.

Sounds tough but like you are on the path to a happier life. Good luck, be kind to yourself.

Original poster
Pinkpinot · 31/10/2013 11:48

Sorry. Just had to get that out!
I'm away for a couple of days with ds
Just need to steel myself for the conversation on my return
It's going to be hell

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onetiredmummy · 31/10/2013 14:05

I've done this conversation. Its starts off hellish but then its OK because you're so angry you just don't care. I was enjoying it by the end as I got every last little bit of resentment & anger out that was years old!

Do what you need to & we are here for afterwards if you need us :)

PTFO · 31/10/2013 20:42

go for it. its clearly been a long time coming, good luck, stay strong and let us know how you get on, we are here for you x

ToTheTeeth · 31/10/2013 21:07

It's not going to be hell, it's going to lead to something fantastic for you by the sounds of it.

LEMisafucker · 31/10/2013 21:09

BPD???? REALLY??? Thats an insult these days then?? FFS Angry

The rest of it, you have my sympathies, he sounds like a cunt.

bamboobutton · 31/10/2013 21:12
killpeppa · 31/10/2013 21:12

I've done it- it feels fantastic.

good luck brave lady
we are all behind youThanks

Original poster
Pinkpinot · 31/10/2013 22:16

Lem, I'm sorry if I offended you
In an attempt to understand him, early on, I thought he had bpd, he doesnt, hes just a c@nt
The 2 arent related at all

I'm very worried about going home
I haven't spoken to him in 2 days so don't know how he's thinking

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HissyFucker · 31/10/2013 22:22

I was wondering if you knew my ex there for a second...

I know what you mean about trying to find a reason, a label, that explains their knobbishness... but no. He's only a twat.

Could you tell him it's over and that you want him to go?

payhisdebt · 31/10/2013 23:58

eh? I thought a man had said all that to you , and was ready to condemn.
think about it.

CogitoEerilySpooky · 01/11/2013 06:52

@payhisdebt.... I suspect the 'man' here has said & done much worse than this to the OP given that she's frightened to go home.

onetiredmummy · 01/11/2013 10:47

Bamboo I'm assuming bpd means bi-polar disorder, but I'm not sure either x

HissyFucker · 01/11/2013 11:06

I'd imagine she meant Borderline Personality Disorder, which if ignored/untreated is hell on earth to both sufferer and anyone they live with.

It can sometimes manifest almost identically to domestic abuse.

The effects of it are devastating on everyone near it.

It can be controlled, but requires will and effort of the sufferer.

Hawkmoth · 01/11/2013 11:06

Borderline personality disorder?

kinkyfuckery · 01/11/2013 11:08

It's going to be a difficult conversation, but I would advise you not to say any of the above.

Just tell him you are unhappy, he is unhappy, the relationship is not working, and you want him to leave. Stay calm, stay strong, and keep posting! x

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