NEED ADVICE: Ex Partner won't leave

[discodancer79]

I have joined especially to get advice for my friend who is having issues with her ex partner. They have 2 children under 5 and after breaking up her partner moved out of their council house into his Mothers. Without going into the ins and the outs, his Mother has thrown him out and my friend has let him back to stay though they are not together.
Ok, so WE know this was not a great idea. . .
I want to know what help there is so she can get him out? Each time she asks him to leave he threatens her. He was OK until she confirmed that there was no chance of them getting back together. Now he has gone back to his old self!
He has always been mentally abusive to her and it has turned physical with the police getting involved once so I am concerned this could happen again. But where does she stand if she asks him to leave and he doesn't? What authorities can assist? The house is in her name so I am also concerned that him living there could have an effect on her agreement with the council?
He threatens to stop giving her maintenance money for his own children if he has to leave and that he will quit his job so they cant take money from him!
Because of his own issues and insecurities he tries to make her feel bad about herself by telling her she is a terrible mother, ugly and that she will lose her kids! (great father!)
He made her delete his phone number so she cant contact him when he is not there even about the kids. He said the police will have to contact him if there is a problem!
I really want to be able to advise her on how to get him out without it affecting her maintenance and without the threats turning to much worse.

The only way she can start to move on is with him out of the house but with him always putting her down, making threats and telling her her own kids will hate her for it, I don't know what to suggest?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time.

Call 101 and have the police remove him. They will have a record of their previous involvement.

He sounds like the sort of twat that will stop paying so she needs to be prepared for that. Also she will need to log any threats he makes and report them.

I have no great advice other than to tell her to call Women's Aid.
They can certainly help her with her rights etc.. and also help her with getting him out.
Tell her to call them asap.
They are busy and she may not get through straight away but she needs to keep trying until she gets the help she needs.
Maybe she can get onto the council and tell them the situation and arrange to have the locks changed and just not let him back in.
If he turns violent then she dials 999 immediately!!!
I wish her well, it must be a horrible situation to be in.

Has she actually asked for your advice? It's important because, if she's let him back semi-voluntarily and is now living in fear, she may not be receptive to any ideas you may put forward.

She is in a very risky position at the moment and needs to put her safety and that of her DCs first. Technically, as the named tenant, she could ring 101 and have him removed but Womens Aid can advise on how to go about that safely.

If this man is being particularly threatening and difficult, once separated, she then needs to distance herself from him by using outside agencies such as solicitors, CSA and so on. She has to work on him being uncooperative and make any plans on that basis.

Thank you all for the responses. This is really helpful. I will let her know all the comments.
She has been asking for advice and open about the situation with me. She tried to get on here herself yesterday after I told her about this site but she only has a mobile and couldn't get onto the internet using her phone.
Only last night she texted me and told me to pick up the phone when she rang and just listen when she called. She wanted me to hear the conversation (argument) they were having. I missed the part when he had her by the throat and spat in her face or I would have called the police! But she was really strong and kept telling him he was a bully and she doesn't owe him a roof over his head, which he seems to think!
I need her to log all the threats he is making as I don't think all these incidents are recorded. Actually, I am sure they are not.

Thank you again!

If he's getting more aggressive she needs to get him out and fast. She doesn't have to be physically assaulted for the police to get involved. Verbal abuse and threats of violence are quite enough to get him removed.

The police are the only body with the authority to remove him and they will.