I know lots of people here talk about it, but I'd really like to read some more and think about my own family, as I have basically always been the scapegoat. So are there good books out there that will help me to understand a bit more?
I think I am most of the way out of being trapped by them - I've had therapy and done a lot of thinking along the way. But there are things that happened in the past that I can't let go of - and the main responsible person is now dead, so it's impossible to have it out with them. But I need to get rid of the anger and fury; as long as I have that, they still have power over me. Or if there is any other way to do it, I'd love to know.
Hope this makes sense.