Pissed off... Very minor issue

[Mrspebble]

Just need to get it off my chest. I have a new baby and had a c section. Live rurally no public transport. So for the last six weeks I have been on my own a lot with our baby .. Loving it but craving a bit of independence and being able to get out and about..

So I said to dh .. Oh it's great to get my independence back ... This is the first time I have even mentioned my isolation. He said look what you have .. Showed me our baby.. Would you swap it.

Totally ridiculous of him. We waited a long time to have him. We never normally row but for gods sake, he got on my nerves. Of course I wouldn't swap things.

Men!!!!!

I have gone to bed.

Congratulations on your baby.

I'm not entirely sure I understand what the problem is. Is it that you wanted to talk about how you're feeling a bit isolated and trapped at home, and instead of listening and sympathising, he made you feel as though you should just be grateful that you have your baby?

If so, YANBU to feel frustrated, but I wouldn't be too harsh on him. It's a natural human response to offer solutions to people's problems rather than just offer sympathy. People have an overwhelming urge to make it better, to say the right thing, etc. Quite often this translates as putting their feet in it, but it comes from a well-meant place.

Try starting the conversation again, with "I need you to understand that while I'm delighted we have our baby, I'm fed up with being stuck at home and want to try to build a balance between being at home with baby and getting my life back."

Poor you, I would have done the same op, I empathise with you given you live remotely....it must be hard and sometimes isolated. Totally get u wanting that independence back. Ignore his comments. Sleep on it and let it blow over. He is not in the same place as you so cannot know how you feel. Other mums will, so ensure you mix with some local mums in the same boat and have a good natter/rant ...

Blimey, he clearly has no idea what it's like to see barely no-one but a baby for 6 weeks!!!