Any tips for meeting someone new when you have kids?

[Newchapters]

After a terrible on/off relationship with my dcs father, I'm ready to move on. He has plastered all over fb (we are not friends but I couldn't resist checking) that he is in love with someone else and is oh so happy.

He hasn't seen the kids in nearly a year, though I have honestly thought about him every single day. I need to move on. I want to move on. All I do is work/look after the kids/ work/ bed and the same again!

However I'm overweight and I have 3 kids! Who is going to look at me? Plus I'm a tad bit unsociable and awkward.

I'm going to start looking after myself, exercising and eating healthily, but HOW do you meet someone?! How do strangers start talking and then build a relationship?

This post is quite odd, and probably jumbled as I'm feeling quite fed up and lonely- but hopefully someone can make sense of it!

Hi op. It sounds like you're already thinking in the right way. Start to look after yourself and feel good about yourself and things will fall into place. Being mum shouldn't stop you meeting a decent man. A man who hasn't seen his own children for a year is a complete waste of space and good luck to him in his new relationship. You are well rid of him and he's done you a favour. Good luck .

Hi newchapters! Congratulations on getting rid of X, he sounds like a right twunt. Do you go out to work? Any date potential there? How about internet dating?

Thanks, I have recently lost a stone, still more to go but I'm feeling a lot more confident!

How do people meet though? I have only ever been with him for the last 9 years (I am 28 now) and I've missed out on the going out and meeting people. Do men still just ask for your number if they like the look of you?! I'm so awkward I would run away, I would love to be friends first and then it would turn into a relationship.

Hi Isis,

I am a teacher, only a few attached males though! I do day dream about meeting a fellow teacher and we could spend holidays together- plus he would be crb checked lol

Would you consider internet dating? I've heard good things about guardian soulmates. You could get a friend to help with your profile. I don't really know how to meet people either :-/