Has anyone ever been married to or in a relationship with someone addicted to alcohol? I've recently started a new relationship after coming out of a long, abusive marriage. The relationship is with an old friend. However this weekend he admitted to me that he is an alcoholic. He is a very functioning alcoholic in that he has held down the same job for many years, he pays his bills, has savings, no debts, has a good relationship with his ex wife and kids, gets on great with his flatmates etc.
I wasn't totally shocked when he told me tbh, I did have my suspicions...my mum is an alcoholic and I could see some of the patterns. However I don't know what to do now. I've told him I need time to think...I have a lot going on both at work and at home next week so wont have the time to give this as much thought as it needs. I'm due to see him in 2 weeks (Its a ldr) so we'll talk properly then.
In the meantime I guess I'm looking for some kind of hope that this could work. I'm not unrealistic, as I said my mum was an alcoholic so I wont be letting this guy into my life in a serious way until I see a definite commitment that he wants to recover from this. But I really do love him and I hate the idea of walking away from him if this is something that could work.