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Facebook messages from a friends husband

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sunnyshine · 28/10/2013 17:44

So a friends husband has been sending me messages on Facebook. Nothing serious just "hi how are you " type ones. Feels a bit weird though. What would you do? I try ignoring but he can see I'm online and this morning sent 4 in about 30 mins as I didn't reply :-(

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 29/10/2013 19:02

I would find out what he wants. If it's nothing I would just mention it to my friend, "Oh, Carl must be bored, he keeps chatting away to me on Facebook. Shouldn't he be helping with the ironing?" or whatever.

mrsravelstein · 29/10/2013 19:04

i had this with a an old school friend's husband, i just blocked him after a while as it seemed to get a bit creepy.... but i don't see her often, only once a year maybe with other old school friends, so she's never asked why, if she even knows it happened...

Pippilangstrompe · 29/10/2013 20:02

If he is trying to get in touch with you 4 times in 30 minutes, maybe he has something specific he wants to ask you? Maybe he wants ideas for her Christmas present or something? Why not just reply and see what he wants? If it turns out he just wants a chat and that makes you uncomfortable, then say you are busy and ignore him thereafter.

Twinklestein · 29/10/2013 20:06

It depends on the OP's friend & their relationship. I chat to various husbands of friends of mine (not on fb tho - can't be arsed with it), but there's one husband I'd never chat to because that female friend is very insecure & jealous.

BookFairy · 29/10/2013 20:54

Oh my. This is exceptionally weird as I'm in a similar predicament. My friend's husband sends me facebook messages every day : "hi" "morning" "hi" "how's everything?". I'm not really worried he's fishing to cheat (I live at the other end of the country), I'm just finding it weird/annoying as I don't know him v well. A message once every few weeks to catch up would be nice, practically every day is a bit much.

lottieandmia · 29/10/2013 20:59

He probably is up to something imo. I had a similar situation but it was a brother of a friend of mine on FB. He friended me and I accepted because I did know him quite well when we were children! Then he started opening dialogues with me, usually in the evening. My answer to it was never to appear online (I knew he was married). There is now an option to just block certain people from seeing you online.

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