I'm resurrecting this...and would appreciate some opinions.
I've been taking a step back for a while because I think she takes me for granted. I've cut back on the calls and tend to wait a day to return her calls rather than call back asap.
You see I think if the chips were really down for me, she'd step up to the plate but generally she is a bit all her, her, her and never seems to have time for me.
Take this week. We hadn't spoken for 2 weeks- last time was just before when she went on hols. I phoned- left a message.
About 3 days later she called me back but I didn't pick up because it was late in the evening - DH had been working late and we had lots of legal family paperwork to get through that evening.
So she left me a message.
I called back her yesterday - guess what- coat on and 'just going out' ( this happens 8 x out of 10). She's the least passive aggressive person I know so it's not an avoidance tactic.
She said she'd call back later but I told her that late evening was not a good time as DH and I were still ploughing through this paperwork and admitted that's why I hadn't answered the phone the other day.
So- she promised to call today during the day. And of course she hasn't.
If this was a one-off, fair enough but it's gone on for years and just feels offhand. When she does call she'll be full of apologies but the usual reason is she has put other friends and 'impromptu' meetings etc with them first.
How would you handle someone like this so they show a bit of respect?
Or am I over reacting?