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F-buddy should I be concerned?

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christmasclean · 27/10/2013 23:37

My husband Is drunk as usual and I read his emails to find private messages etc from a site called f buddy. I've googled it and now know what it is. To receive private messages would obviously mean that he's signed up/ got a profile ? I can't read more as if you click on it on the email you have to sign in. It was pure chance his device was left unlocked so I may never know more about it. I'm just at my wits end with this bloke.

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TiredDog · 27/10/2013 23:45

At your wits end? What's after wits end then? There must be something wonderful keeping you or fear of leaving?

tallwivglasses · 27/10/2013 23:56

Oh poor you, OP :(
He's 'drunk as usual' - that's enough to be concerned.

He's pm-ing people on f buddy (fuck buddy?). You may never know more about it (You might if you ask him or snoop )

You're at your wits end which implied there's a whole barrel of other shite going down.

All that would be way below my bottom line. What's yours?

Cabrinha · 28/10/2013 00:02

Fuckbuddy is a site that people join to arrange no strings attached sex.
Deal breaker, no?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 28/10/2013 06:51

'Drunk as usual' would be enough reason to show him the door. Finding out he's touting for sex on dodgy websites would be another good reason. Is there other stuff you're unhappy about?

Vivacia · 28/10/2013 07:09

If somebody snooped on my emails they would think I was a member of all sorts of sites judging by the spam I receive.

Personally, the "always drunk" bit would be enough for me.

HowlingTrap · 28/10/2013 08:32

doesn't sound good,

are you confronting him?

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christmasclean · 28/10/2013 11:58

He said it was just out of curiosity. In a completely carefree manner

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Cabrinha · 28/10/2013 13:41

Of course he did.
Has he shown you his profile?
Probably changed it by now though.

FWIW, my STBXH didn't join fuckbuddy til after I chucked him, but the Escort sites he looked at were all "curiosity". He was curious enough to sleep with prostitutes our entire relationship. I don't buy "curious" these days.

You say you're at your wit's send... So it sounds shit anyway. So who cares if he's curious? Bin him.

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christmasclean · 28/10/2013 14:01

Do some men go on these kind of sites to chat? Or just look at pictures. Or are there other sites he could of used for that? Is any kind of dialogue cheating of just porn? Gah ConfusedHmm

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Lweji · 28/10/2013 14:13

I'd only buy curiosity if he as a paid member of MN. Wink

More seriously, curiosity doesn't lead to private messages.

alphacourse · 28/10/2013 14:15

No - they just use them to find fuck buddies. Sorry Sad There are lots of other sites for chat. This site does what it says on the can. Other members won't be looking to just chat either.

tingle1 · 28/10/2013 14:36

These sites dont exist, they are fake. they want your money, all the profiles are bots with harvested pics.

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christmasclean · 28/10/2013 16:41

He said he only went on there out of curiosity and only had to press a button to join then they sent spam.
I said no you actively gave your email and thought of a password on a site just to meet people for NSA . If you've nothing to hide prove me wrong and show me your profile right now. He said no why should he have to prove he's done nothing wrong.
I said well I'm not wrong and repeated myself with above again.
But he wouldn't prove me wrong.
Ouch this hurts.

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Lweji · 28/10/2013 16:50

You got your answer. :(

alphacourse · 28/10/2013 16:53

tingle - sadly you are wrong. My DP joined one and met up with people. The people were real. The shagging was real. The heartache was real.

I'm so sorry Christmas - I know your pain. I know what it is like to want to believe them. What bastards. If he had done nothing wrong he would show you. Anybody would. Those with nothing to hide, hide nothing. (((Hugs)))

SolidGoldBrass · 28/10/2013 17:05

He doesn't sound worth keeping anyway if he's always drunk and looking for sex elsewhere. Time to start looking into legal/financial aspects of separation ie who owns the house or is named on the tenancy, do you have DC etc?

Vespasianus · 16/05/2014 10:14

Did you dump him?

I use several sites like that, but refuse to meet married guys/girls.

Pastells · 16/05/2014 10:19
Hmm

Welcome to mumsnet.

"I use several sites like that, but refuse to meet married guys/girls."

good for you....

Any other reason you've posted on a zombie thread like this one for your first post?

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 16/05/2014 20:10

'No why should I have to prove I've done nothing wrong.'

'So I don't dump you because I think you have?'

-head/desk Hmm

OP, just dump him.

mammadiggingdeep · 16/05/2014 20:34

Zombie thread Bruno

SJC2014 · 17/05/2014 08:42

What's a zombie thread?

WildBill · 17/05/2014 08:51

I'd never heard of F-Buddy until this thread so had a look, you have to register your details to interact and I think pay to join as there was one of the visa/maestro cards accepted type signs.

MyDogAteMyBelt · 17/05/2014 08:54

ZOMBIE THREAD.
ffs...

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