Persistant lying over ridiculously petty things is leaving me enraged and paranoid.

[colditz]

I asked dp this morning - "have you changed the baby's nappy?"

"Yes, I did it before you got up." He replies.

Nappy is soaking. He has not changed baby's nappy, don't get me wrong baby had only had nappy on since I changed it first thing, but why FUCKING LIE!!!!???

I've hadf enough, I cannot take tyhe lies anymore, it is nearly ever day he tries to feed me some unbelievable crack of bullshit, and I wouldn't trust him now if he said grass was green.

It's not even purely that I am being lied to, but also the things he tries to get me to believe are outragious! No way had the baby been changed in the last hour, no way is he not smoking when he goes out, his hands stink of it. I don't care, but I will not be lied to! He has an email account that he denies all knowledge of, yet it is set up with his username and his password.

How can i deal with this? He will lie until he is blue in the face, then when presented with evidence to tyhe contrary, will carry on lying!

He says he knows I will be pissed off ad that is why he lies, but I have told him again and again and again... nothing winds me up more than being lied to

My dp does do this. But he doesnt do it to me anymore. I cannot think of some of the dreadful things I have said in order to try and stop him, but finally, after many years, he doesnt do it to me.
He still does to other people...made up storys, things that havent happened....fucking scary actually...why the need to do it? Ive asked him. He doesnt know.
I give him credit for the fact he doesnt do it to me anymore.

the making up stories thing can be - so i have read - insecurity. trying to 'big themselves up'. i read it comes from feeling they are boring or not as good as others so they try to impress by making up things they have done, places they have been, conversations - basically things they think will make the listener respect / admire / think they are cool etc! sadly, they just end up looking foolish.

MTPW, yep youve got it on the head. Had to be very blunt and say I loved him as he was, and his lies just made him look like a twat quite frankly. And he really really didnt need to do it.

I am not going to leave the father of my children because he lies. I might leave him if he continues to lie to me though.

Thanks for all your replies though, I am taking it all in.

Yeah I get pissed off about stuff like that too, for example i asked dh to post a letter.
It was still in his laptop bag, yet he assured me it was definitely posted!!!

oh colditz you could really do without this too. How are things generally other than this issue? If you want to vent off-board then do email me (unfortunately my msn is knackered) - I will listen

He is lying to you though.
????

its just irritating isnt it
my husband is a secret smoker aswell, drives me mad and not because he smokes, because he does it in secret when there is no need. Mind you i wouldnt let him smoke in the house anyway